It’s funny how things work out. Two years ago, I had to change schools and step into a long distance relationship. Long story short, it didnt work out. He never replied or attempted to converse. I was heartbroken. And lonely. So I started chatting with this quirky guy from my new school. He wasn’t like anybody I’d met. He was smart (more like a genius) and flirted. A LOT :P We had so much in common (unlike my previous) and stayed up til wee hours of the morning just talking about nothing. But He was in love with another girl. For almost three years. And just couldnt seem to let go and just kept falling deeper in the ditch.
One night something just happened to me and I proposed. Yes. I did. I’m not ashamed to admit it. It was the best decision of my life. He said yes. But He didnt love me then. He was still hung up and said it in a desperate attempt to get over her. But slowly he warmed up to me. He forgot her and became mine. I had insecurity issues too but we worked out everything together. We are deeply and madly in love.
A year has passed and now he has gone away to college. I miss him. Sometimes, there is this heavy feeling and pain in your chest. A knot in your stomach that gets tighter everyday. Until you think you’re gonna burst. Just take a deep breath and call your best friend. Go shopping. have a party. He’s gone. Not dead. Don’t forget to live your life.I’m going through this for the second time but I have no fears. I’m not without hope and endless love. I’m not without patience and understanding and forgiveness.
Our story isn’t cute and ‘aww’ types but it does have a happy ending.
He hasn't bothered to talk to me in over a week. It hurts because I at least tried. I at least told him I was trying to trust him. He never text me back. I know he got my message. I miss him. I want to talk to him. But I think it's done and I have to pretend like it never happened. Should I keep waiting?
Being entirely honest. No, move on. Because in a LDR both individuals have to want the same result. Its not a one person thing. So if he isn’t making the effort then let him go. Make him realize you’ve moved on. I’m sorry love.
It was about 5 years ago, I was a bit of a tomboy and played my brother’s PS3. There, I met this guy, by the name of Adam. It was just being added on PS3 at first, we didn’t talk much. Then, we started to become friends, I gave him my facebook, we added each other and that was that. We hadn’t talked for a while when it came to August 12th, 2011. He said hey and we were off. He talked about getting his girlfriend, Leigh back. They never did, but once we started webcaming, I realised how much she meant to him, but also how terrible she treated him and how b*tchy she is. He talked about killing himself. Thankfully, I talked him out of it. I told him to go a walk, so he phoned me and I comforted him as he did so. It was up until November that he’d have these depressing days, which I’d have to talk him out of stupid things.
I started to fall hopelessly in love with this guy who lives 500 miles away. We became best friends and we were so close. He knew everything about me. Things no one, but me, knew. I told myself constantly how he’s too far away, I’m not good enough, he doesn’t see me that way, he’s 2 years older and wouldn’t want someone my age, I don’t even love him.
Which were all lies. Yes, ALL. Even the last. Because on the 18th of June, 2012 at 2:23am, we had this conversation…
Him: I’ve never really told you that I love you.
Me: You do like everyday. What do you mean?
Him: I love you. I’ve been thinking about you differently for over a month now. But online relationships are hard, and I don’t want to ruin this friendship.
Everything fell in to place. Life’s amazing right now. We aren’t going out. But as he once said, ‘we’re close to dating’….
Him: So when we get married, we’re living in England?
Me: NO! We’re living over here.
*This repeated for ten minutes*
Me: Okay then. We’ll live in the sea as a half way line. You’ll be Spongebob, I’ll be Sandy.
Him: Are Spongebob and Sandy CLOSE TO DATING? *Emphasis on CLOSE TO*
Me: Well they’re cartoons, so no it doesn’t work like that.
Him: Well then. It won’t be like us will it? If they’re only ever going to be best friends.
BOOM. Dead. Yea, so that’s pretty much it. Oh, and we’re getting married with haribo rings.
Oh I don't care if it's posted or not lol, but ya what's different about this guy(to me) is that he actually makes me feel like he really likes me for who I am and really cares about me, and that's something I could never say before. But ya, that is true about the "if" thingy. Thanks a lot <3
My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year, we met while I was doing a year in Montreal (Im from England he’s from France), our relationship moved quickly but it was exciting and I ended up living with him for 5months until I had to leave, ever since we left we’ve done really well at talking to each other throughout the day either by text/facebook or skype. However its now been 6weeks since i last saw him (im seeing him in 2 weeks) and things are starting to feel weird and it doesnt feel like a relationship as such. i love him so much and he is definitely the one i want to be with and i know he feels the same way…i guess my question is…did things change in your relationship when you went from being with him all the time, to only once a month?!
I'm so impatient! I just figured since he liked me, he'd want to talk to me even if it's brief. Is the non talking thing normal in a LDR? We're not in a relationship, I'm just wondering
For my relationship the non talking is normal. My boyfriend and I both have busy daily lives, so I admit to not replying to a text or picking up his calls, vice versa. What exactly is happening though?
Hey! I'm having trouble deciding what I should do in my situation... I met a boy online and at first he seemed amazing. It seemed like fate that I met him. He was the sign I was looking for in my life. We've known each other for a month and we've Skyped and text each other randomly. My problem is that I'd text him a cute text or just saying hi and he'd never text back. It hurts my feelings since I know he's seen them. Should I give up and move on? Is this even worth the anxiety? Help!
Give it some time. Maybe he has to warm up to you?
Hi! i am so happy i found this blog, i need really some advice. i met my long distance boyfriend two days ago, after almost 14 months of being together. from the second we started driving separate ways, my life has been absolutely miserable. i can't stop crying or thinking about him, i can't sleep.. i am trying so hard to stay strong but it is so difficult. i don't want to do anything except be with him. how do you deal with saying goodbye to your boyfriend? i need help on how to cope )':
This is exactly what I do.
1) hug him and whisper “until next time”
2) close my eyes and remember what he smells like, his smile, and how his touch feels on my skin
3) I ask to keep a shirt everytime I see him
4) I sleep in that shirt for months afterwards
5) I close my eyes, get a pillow and cuddle with it as if it were him
6) I talk to him, all day the week after he leaves to slowly detach and cope with the separation.
Hi I found this blog and I’m so happy I’ve find people that know what it’s like to be in a long distance relationship. I hate feeling like people look at me and think I’m stupid, when really I’ve just found something so special it’s worth fighting the distance for. I met my boyfriend in kindergarten actually and I even had a crush on him back then. We hadn’t seen each other in years but he moved to Florida 3 years ago. He is my best friends cousin and when he came back to new York to visit we started talking just as friends. I never wanted to fall for him but he admitted he started having feelings for me. We talked everyday he got me through everything. Well he came back last July after we had been talking for 4 months and we decided we would give the relationship we wish we could have a try, but we would have to end it when he left. Those 2 weeks were like heaven he told me, and I felt like I never had before. I didn’t want to lose him and he kept fighting for me to see that we could make it work. On the last night he was in town he came through my window at 10pm he took me into my living room we both cried in each others arms and he whispered to me “before I leave I just wanted to let you know that I love you, so you could hear it in person” at that moment I realized I loved him to. He left for 11 months and we stayed together devoted to make it work and we did. He visited last month and it was even better than the last time. We have just celebrated our 1 year on the 11th and today I remember when he first told me he loved me last July 26th. There must be a reason were together that we found each other. I’ll do anything to be in his arms again, I won’t give up on us.
It's not really a story just something that helps us xD
Me and my boyfriend use Teamviewer to like watch what we do and do things together. Like our header on our page? We were on the phone and teamviewer and we made it on my screen and we were just having so much fun and laughing so much. I made him cry from laughter xD. It’s like I’m sitting in his lap c: I’d suggest other ldr couples use this.
This guy and I have been sending each other long messages back and forth almost every day for 5 months, we're positively perfect for each other. Except he lives in the UK and I live in the US. We won't have the chance to be together for two years when I'm going over there to study abroad. How can we both make it through the next two years together when we're both going to be starting college and there will be lots of other people? I'm really worried he'll find someone else and forget about me.
If he truly cares for you as he says he does, then you can either doubt him or trust him. This is part of communication.
how did you and your SO meet and how long have you been together?
I was on a business trip with my dad, and I was just wondering around NYC. I got lost so I went to a starbucks and just standing in line he came up to me as I was looking at a map asking if I was lost. I was looking at him like what the hell, anyways I told him yeah. So that day he literally took me everywhere I wanted to go. He asked me for my number after that, and I gave it to him. I didn’t expect a call or anything, and went about my business like nothing. Well the following day he texted me asking if I wanted to see the real new york, I said sure. I was staying at the waldorf and he came and got me. We went absolutely everywhere, I saw things I thought I would never get the chance to see. It was unforgettable. I was in NYC for 2 months that summer, and we got to know each other. He asked me if I wanted this to last, whatever it was that was going on between us, I did. At that exact moment I wasn’t sure how things were going to work out. He was the optimist, the one who convinced me on our relationship.
My boyfriend and I will be together for one year in the next month and I couldn’t be happier with anyone else. A few months ago, he decided to take a job offer over 2000 miles away. When he broke the news to me, I was completely heartbroken. A part of me was so happy for him that he’s finally doing something that he’s worked so hard his entire life for, something that he’s constantly been dreaming of, but at the same time, I couldn’t help but think what’s going to happen to us. He leaves in a month, and everyday it just seems like it’s getting harder and harder. I’m terrified he’s going to get there and he’s going to forget about me completely. He reassures me constantly, saying that this will work, that we’ll see eachother as much as we can, skype, facetime you name it. I just couldn’t shake the feeling of impending doom. After reading so many stories, it’s given me some hope for our future. Knowing that I’m not the only person who’s going through this, makes it a little easier to cope. I guess I’m just so terrified because I’ve never had to do something like this before. I’m scared, sad and sometimes I just want to end things all together because I’m so fearful I won’t be able to handle not seeing him all the time, not being able to hold him, kiss him, lay with him. This blog is so helpful for those going through this, and I’m so happy that I came across this. Wish me luck and hopefully our love is strong enough to overcome this obstacle. I truly love him with all my heart, and want nothing more than for this to work out. Only time will tell.
Well me and my girlfriend were in a long distance relationship for a year and a month and her dad found out about it and we talked sorta dirty and now i can't ever talk to her and if he finds out he'll contact my school and seek expulsion and so much more bad stuff. He's a lawyer and i have no chance of winning :/ i miss her.
I think you should seek legal counsel, because it sounds like what he’s threatening to do is against ethical codes. With what grounds is he going to get you expelled?
(If you want you don’t have to ask as anon, I promise I won’t publish anything you don’t want me to)
We’re both in the most important time of our academic years…he’s got his last year to finish and pass with brilliant grades and I have to gather all my extra-curricular credits as well as balance my academics before I go in for my last year at school, next year. Yes, he is a year older to me. We spent all of our time these few years fighting on petty things…and no matter what happened, like two magnets, we were always back with one another. We wasted all our time like that, not understanding the importance of our time together. Now, in about a month, he’ll go in for mock exams and then boards…then he’ll leave for college. It scares me. He’s such a big part of my life and he’s so important to me…I can’t imagine a single day without him. It gnaws on the corner of my mind…the fact that he is going to leave. I’ve heard that long distance relationships usually never work. I know…people change, things happen. I’ll just miss him so much that it hurts…know the feeling? :(. I’m in love with him
For the past couple of months I have been letting my best guy friend in, he’s absolutely in love with me, he’s the sweetest person you’ll ever meet, but I cannot let my guard down with him. Well last week I went to a national leadership conference in Disney, students from all over the country was there. I went with no intentions of finding anyone. Friday night we had a dance, and I was just dancing with my girls, when I see people making a circle for break dancers. One break dancer in particular caught my eye. It was such a weird feeling, I instantly wanted him, I had a natural pull to him. I know he wouldn’t notice because thousands of people were there so i decided to ask him to dance and he accepted. I had never had so much fun dancing with someone ( I loooove dancing) afterwards he asked me my name and where I was from, but I didn’t even ask him his…fortunately the next night there was another dance, we danced the whole time and I loved it. When the dance was over, that meant the conference was over, the next morning everybody was flying back. He lives in Cali. I live in Delaware. And I’m only a sophomore. When the dance was over we exchanged numbers and said we’d stay in touch over text, Skype, etc. when we said our goodbyes I kissed him on the cheek and he kissed my forehead(it was amazing) and then it hit me that the next time I’d see him would be a long time so i just kissed his lips. Then I went back to my resort and I knew then the next time I’d see him would take months, maybe years. We’ve been in contact ever since and I can’t get him off of my mind. I hardly ever fall this quick, and I am, for him. Our time zones are so different, what should I do or feel? He’s all I think about, when I read his texts I automatically light up.
I met up with a friend from high school, hadn’t seen him in about 9 years. We hit it off and decided to keep in touch. He lives about 2000 miles away and I took the time to go down for a week’s visit. We hit it off even more. We basically both like each other but live too far away to have a relationship and neither of us can really afford to keep travelling back and forth. He will be moving back to this state in about a year. I miss him so much already and am having such a hard time dealing with the unfairness that I have found someone and cannot be with them. What do I do?
I think that due to your circumstances, you should either talk to him about having a LDR until he moves back, or just wait it out.
I hope you answer this, I really need your help. I like this boy that lives very far away. He lives in California and I live in Europe and it's a 9-hour time difference. We met on Twitter half a year ago and I really like him a lot. He's everything I could wish for in a person. He's absolutely perfect to me and for me. But he's so far away and there is a big chance that we couldn't ever get to meet. Besides, I'm very scared to date someone that far away. Should I date him or not, and why? Please
As I really can’t help you all that much, it truly depends on your feelings for him, and vice versa. You can make it work, you can meet him.