hi i need some advice! i fell in love with my best friend from high school and now we're about to enter a long distance relationship. he and i are both going to different but both academically rigorous universities in the fall (let's just say ranked top 10) and i'm pretty scared about whether we're going to have time for each other. we both take academics pretty seriously, not to mention we're social people, but we really really do want this to work out. is that realistic?
It’s realistic. You both have to set aside some time for each other.
For example Trey is on a full-ride scholarship at his school. He’s busting his ass, to maintain his grades. I’m at school, doing the same. We have this thing where every Weds& Thurs Night, regardless of what happens ( unless family emergency) we talk or skype.
We set aside the time. You just have to do the same.
Hi! I met this fabulous guy when I was overseas and we’ve kept in contact with each other via emails. We both had mutual feelings for each other. I think of him everyday but my heart also aches with memories of him and knowing we can never be together because I know I can never live my single mum behind to be with him. The things he says and memories of him still makes my heart melt but it hurts so much being reminded of how we cannot be together. I tried to not speak to him for 5 months but it hurt more because I fought the thought of him everyday. What should I do?
I’ve been with my amazing boyfriend for 2 years this October. He is my first, last and only love; I couldn’t be without him. We’ve spoke about getting married and how we will raise our children and how many we want (we want as many as we can look after) :). Last September I found out I was pregnant and we couldn’t of been happier as we had been trying for baby; we then found out that we were having twins (which we where kind of expecting as we both has twins in our families) but not long after that I had a miscarriage and it was the most excruciating pain that I have ever been through psychically and emotionally. He was there for me through every step of the way and still is now as the due date would of been today June 13th. He’s my rock and I can’t imagine life without him. At times I cry myself to sleep as it is so hard not being with him or waking up next to him. The last time I saw him was in March of this year but I never think about giving up or finishing things because he’s the only one I want and I truly believe that he is my soul mate. I just can’t wait for the day when we live together and I’m his wife :)
I’m just starting a long distance relation with a guy I know from a mobile messenger app. We have start our relation only about 5days but I already truly in love with him. He is everything to me. He control all my joy and sad.
We are apart for about 9000+ miles and time zone difference of 7 hrs. We also had a huge background and culture differences as I’m growth up as an Asian lady and he is an European guy. I really hope this relation will work out.
He had been into a minor accident few days ago where had cause him to be admitted in hospital and we had lesser time to communicate as phone are no allow in hospital. I really wish I can at his side, accompany him trough all this hard time.
I miss him a lot. All I could do is thinking of him. I never meet him in person, yet I’m really falling in love with him, is it called fate or silly? I can’t answer it as well.
I never been into such a long distance relation and only had a relation once before. I really hope it can be turn up nicely and we can love each other and been together forever.
How do you cope with not seeing him for long periods of time? And how often do you call each other?
This is so relevant to my relationship right now.
I just work through it to be quite honest. Right now I’m in pieces without him. ( Trey is in China for a school adventure sort of thing). I haven’t been able to talk to him for days, and weeks without texting him.
But to answer your questions I don’t cope, I just find things to keep me occupied. When he is in the US we call each other every night. We try to see each other as often as we can.
Just find something that makes you think of other things..
I’m in an LDR with a 7000+ mile difference. We’re going to complete 16 months soon. That man is the love of my life. I miss him terribly some days, while others aren’t as bad. I just wish the distance would disappear somehow. We talk EVERY night, no matter what. There are fights, like in any relationship, but I feel they just make things that much stronger. I’m just hoping things work out the way we want them to and we can be together, forever, real soon. <3
sorry this is long.-- advise on how to cope or other stories would help (:
i met my boyfriend about 2 months ago on my spring break vacation to jamaica. i was trying to make friends after a brutal relationship with my ex and just wanted a fun spring break hook up. I was playing volleyball and this guy who worked there was being super friendly and when the game was over he asked me to come to his next shift so i came figuring hey hes cute why not. i went over and we just talked. the next day we hung out and started flirting until he kissed me. it was so magical. i didnt want another tease and another heart break so i kept telling myself it was just a kiss with a guy. it wud never mean anything and i coudlnt start getting attached when i knew i was leaving the country in 3 days. he gave me his facebook and we kept talking the next few days. he even brought me to the club in the hotel and we danced and had so much fun. then i found out he wasnt here the day i was leaving because he was off that day. i was devistated. i never got to say good bye. when i came back to jersey i tried to forget about it until he chatted me on fb. i was so happy! we kept talking and he told me he really liked me. i cudnt believe this was happening. i told him we werent going to see eachother till i, a sophmore, graduated high school. it didnt matter to him tho. we try to talk everyday, whatsapp, skype, sometimes phone calls. i really believe were in love and so does he. its like were the same person sometimes even tho were so far apart physically hes constantly on my mind. i go to sleep thinking about him and wake up checking my phone every morning to make sure i didnt miss his call or if he sent me a cute good morning text. its hard explaining this stuff to some of my friends. i feel like they think im just a stupid girl who fell for i a guy i dont know. not to mention what my parents would think if they knew. its hard only having a few people on my side. well 2 months down 2 more years to go.
Hi Ldr peeps, In LDR since a year now and it is so hard because till now, we just don’t know when we might meet again. I still keep my hopes up, cause surely we’ll find a way. Till then, supporting each other is what we can do best. So here’s to all those who are in LDR: Never give up just because of the obstacles, because the beauty of our relationship is how we defy all these obstacles…Our love is real…!
Me and my LDB have been dating for over a year. Sometimes it gets hard for me, and I break down to him. Tell him how bad I just want to be with him. He's supportive, but he gets worried and doesn't think I can handle it. Any advice?
There will be times in which you both will feel as if you can’t handle it, or the other won’t understand how bad you want this. It’s just like communication is key, reminding them how you feel is also key. I’ve been in my relationship for 5+ years now, and we are best friends, and in love with one another. I remind him about every 2-3 months, meanwhile he isn’t that emotional, but I know that if he truly didn’t feel the same way for me he would have left me. Simple as that.