First of all I need to excuse myself for my english. It’s not my first language and Im still learning it. Now I will share with you all the happiness of being in a long distance relationship. Because I know it’s hard, and it hurts a lot. But it also can be very happy! My love lives in London, UK. I live in Brazil. More than 10 thousand miles apart. More than 11 hours flight. We’ve met last year in August, online. He came to visit me in January and I just got back from seeing him. We took that photo in Paris, in our 3 days trip to the city of love, but the rest of my two weeks with him we spent in the UK. We still dont know how it will be. If I’m moving there, if he’s moving here, if we are moving somewhere else. We only know that we will be together, no matter where. And we also have the when, only waiting for me to graduate and by the end of 2012 we will be together. I must tell you all what everyone says all the time. And if it happened with a lot of us, it can happen with you too: everything will be ok! If you guys have a deadline, or are working to have one and finally be together, dont give up! Because life isn’t suposed to be fair or easy. And it would be just too easy that with billions of people in the world you would find the love of your life just next corner. I wasn’t that lucky, were you? Although I feel blessed for having found the love of my life. Not everyone can say the same. And that’s what gives me strenght. Think of how much you love him or her, and how sad life can be without the one you love. And make it work. <3 I know we will. We just love each other too much to let anything come between us.
My long distnce boy came all the way from Nebraska to see me (I am in Florida), and told me he loves me. 6 States between us and he still makes me smile. He went home today and all I want to do is cry =(
Well, look at the positive. He came all that way to visit you. :]
Try not to cry, just look to the future where those six states won’t separate the two of you.
Hi, so me and my boyfriend just started a summer long distance relationship. We've been dating for 10 months. We met at our UMass Amherst Orientation last June and started dating last August. The longest we were apart during the school year was 2 weeks during winter break (saw him for 2 days during winter break). He lives in Dedham, MA and I live in East Longmeadow, MA. So at the beginning of summer we would see each other every other weekend. He just left on Sunday to go work at a summer camp up in Maine and will be there until our anniversary, August 17th. His camp is a pretty strict over night camp and he wasn't allowed to bring his computer so we can't skype. We text a little and he calls before he goes to bed, but once the kids get up there on Tuesday it'll probably just be calls before bed. I've been writing him letters everyday and his kids are required to write letters home on tuesdays and thursdays so hell be writting me letters then. So i'm not going to see him for about 2 days after he gets home because I work at a day camp in my town and the last day for me is August 19th. So i have about 8 weeks without him. Things seem fine now, but I'm nervous as the summer goes on and the kids come were gonna start to not talk really. But do you think that if it's only 8 weeks we'll be okay? any suggestions?
I think you two can definitely do eight weeks apart. Even with the limited communication because you guys know that it won’t be forever.
I think the letters are a great idea! They’re a wonderful and personal way to keep in touch with a loved one when they’re not with you.
As for suggestions I’d just say to remember that it’s only two months. And yes, it’s not going to be a walk in the park but it’s going to be very worth it at the end of the summer when you can see each other again.
You two can do it! Hope this helped, have a great summer.
So many people don’t know what we’re going through. So many people have never had to be separated from the one they love by miles and oceans.
I was just thinking about so many negative things that have been said to me over the course of my long distance relationship.
Long distance relationships never work
"Distance makes the heart grow fonder…of someone else" (my grandpa)
Aren’t you worried about them cheating?
It’s awful, absolutely horrible, hearing people put input on your relationship when they don’t even know how you and your partner are.
My least favorite story was when Wil was in Italy and I was at a family party in New Jersey and my aunt asked where he was and I said “Oh, he’s in Italy.” and she looked at me and said “Wow, Italy. You should watch out. There’s a lot of pretty girls there.”
What do you say to that?!
I felt like turning to her and going “You know, I hope the next time your husband travels he goes and sleep with a woman much prettier than you because that is what you are clearly insinuating that my boyfriend is doing.”
I suppose the point of this was to say, while people may be down on you and your relationship you just have to ignore it. Because distance doesn’t mean your relationship has an expiration date.
Have any relationship stories you’d like to share with me? Drop them in my submissions box! You can also ask me questions; and don’t forget I’m giving away Long Distance Love on July 16th. So apply!
I know you've probably been asked this before, but do you a have a link to YOUR long distance story? :)
You know, now that I think about it I don’t. I never made a post just about how my long distance relationship came to be, I just always shared tidbits of it through my posts and through answering peoples questions. :D
I think tonight I’ll make a post just dedicated to my long distance story. :]
hi so me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months (i know it doesn't seem long but we spend 24 hours a day with eachother everyday lol i think you get the point.) so he just went off to college (in tallahassee) and im staying here (in miami) so even though its only 9 hours away and since we are both underage and busy with school we can't visit that often, and we both don't have cars so all we can do is take a bus or plane anyways he's only been gone a week but it feels like forever and we don't talk as much and idk its just not the same :( and we've already had some fights but i really love him and i want us to work out so what can i/we do?
Ahh, this seems similar to what happened to Wil and I.
It’s going to be difficult but there’s so much to do in a long distance relationship! One thing that makes things easier is planning your trips way in advance, it really puts you at ease knowing when you’ll next see each other. Another thing is Skype! Make sure to have set times spend at least a little bit of time on Skype with one another. I’m also a huge fan to the mail. Send each other letters, packages, ect.
Another cute idea is to both keep a journal, write in it whenever you feel it necessary. Write about whatever you want, and when you two see each other exchange notebooks and see all the little things your significant other has been thinking of! It’s a really great idea if the two of you can remember to write in it enough. :]
i am just wanting to let everyone know that Zach and I are going to be meeting eachother in ONE WEEK :) I'm so excited! it's been 7 months since we started talking and I'm so ready to be with my boyfriend!!!
My boyfriend had a talk yesterday about how things were getting harder for us which is mainly the distance. We are slowly drifting apart, and both scared that we will just fade away like that so easily. We've been together for five and half years and it'll be six years in September. What can we do to not drift apart? We are both willing to fight for the relationship, but it's just getting tougher as the days go by.
P.S. Gratz on you and wil being able to see each other everyday now =)
Wow, nearly six years? First of all congratulations on that. That’s amazing.
And to not drift apart? Try doing some special things together. It’s really easy to slip in to a point of comfort with another person where the two of you just kind of go with the flow and nothing exciting happens. When you’re in that period it can kind of feel like the two of you are drifting a bit.
But the good thing about this is that it’s easy to fix! Surprise him. I’m a huge fan of out of no where surprises. Get him some food that he likes, write him a nice little love letter, put something of yours in the package and mail it to him. :] You two can also get in comfy clothes and go on Skype and watch a romantic movie together. Both make popcorn and some tea or something. Be on the phone with one another and watch away.
Just do some little things to show that you care because honestly those things mean the most in a relationship. Especially a long distance one.
The summer before sophomore year a mutual friend set us up. I had never had a boyfriend before and we were both awkward. We never kissed and it took us over a month to even hug. He had an ex-girlfriend harassing him (which I later found out about), causing him to send me a break-up text after 2 months of our relationship.
Over the next school year we became extremely close as friends. Other than a girl who I have known since I was born, he became my best friend. We texted each other every day constantly and told each other everything.
Then, in June he fell for a girl. She was one of the scariest girls in our school to me. Anger issues (she was on the softball team and got violent often), big, strong, swearing, but she had him fooled. Before they were dating he actually wanted to get a group to go to the movies, but it only ended up being me and the two of them. That was one of the most awkward nights for me. At first it was all fine, but then anytime I tried to talk to him she was grabbing his arm or tickling him or something to get his attention away from me. That night I realized my true feelings for him.
After that they officially started dating and I just decided to deal with it and suck it up. Until, one day a friend of mine was at a grad party while texting me. Suddenly she goes “guess who’s here. Ugh” and a few minutes later she tells me that the girl dating my best friend was constantly flirting with some guy at the party. This really bugged me, because, knowing my friend, he would not approve of this and I didn’t like that she thought she could do whatever she wanted.
That is when I decided that I needed to tell him how I felt. He moved from Western N.Y. to N.C. on July 1st 2009. I stayed up the whole night before talking to him while he packed up the boxes into the van and everything, while secretly writing a letter of my feelings. I explained everything (except her flirting, I didn’t think it was my job to tell him that). Then on July 2nd he broke up with his girlfriend, because of his lack of faith in long distance relationships. I spent a while trying to get him to change his mind, ironically, telling him that he can create a view on something which he hasn’t tried. He responded saying that she swore at him and freaked out, so it was too late. That day I added to the letter. I explained that I understood his fear in a long distance relationship and I would be fine with any decision he had.
Then, on July 10th 2009, he went to get the mail while texting me. The letter was there and my heart was beating faster than it ever had before. I was so worried that I had just ruined everything, but knew that I would have gone nuts trying to keep it all to myself.
That is the day our long distance relationship started. We decided that if anyone could make it work then we could. I visit him down in NC and he comes up to visit me in NY, but we only see each other about 3-4 times a year. It has been difficult because of having high school, the economy, and the large distance, but we text non-stop still and try to skype as often as possible. Even though we still have at least four more years apart, with me going to Pennsylvania for college and him going to ECU next year, we know we can do it. He is not only my boyfriend, but he is by best friend. He knows things about me that I have told no one else, and even when we fight I know that we will be fine. Our love, trust, and care for each other amazes me and shows me that we can make it through anything.
Find A Man Who Will Drive To Your House No Matter The Hour
(Well, for all my long distance lovelies: Find a man who wishes with all his heart and soul that he could come to your house, no matter the hour.)
Today was bad. Nearly everything about this whole day was bad. I was with Wil and one of his friends, when I left around 11pm he didn’t walk me out. Now this may not be a huge deal to some people but to me it was. For the first time in nearly two years he didn’t walk me out and I was having a bad day. Not a good combination.
As soon as I got home I let him know I was unhappy with the way that the night went. He called me and apologized but I was still upset.
Fifteen minutes later I heard things hitting my window, I opened it to see him below. I walked outside and he just kissed me, didn’t say a word, only kissed. He apologized and we talked on my front porch for a bit at nearly midnight.
The point of this? Find someone who will do this for you. He could have just blown me off and not showed up, he could have not even called. Things like that, like what he did, let me know that he’s something special (as if I didn’t already but you know).
I just want to say your blog is so great. I remember finding it about a month ago when I was leaving college and leaving my boyfriend and begining a long distance relationship. Your posts & pictures just describe exactly how I'm feeling & it really is nice to know I'm not the only one feeling the way I am. I'm kinda having a rough day & I am pretty sad today, missing my boyfriend ( I saw him 3 days ago) but your blog is great & seeing your posts/pictures makes me feel a little better
Oh, this makes me so happy!
This is the exact reason I set up this blog. Thank you so much for following, you and every one of my followers mean a lot to me.
i'm in a long distance relationship w/ the best guy out there for me. i really honestly think that he is my soulmate & he thinks the same, which makes it even better. but he lives literally across the country & i possible get to see him once a yr. we decided to take a break b/c it hurt seeing other couples together when all we wanted was to hug one another. i thought taking a break would make the pain go away, but it is still 100% there. i get to see him this summer & i really can not wait. me and him are best friends, he's my rock. i still tell him my problems, but its so different. no more good morning texts. haven't skyped in forever. i think its b/c he hurts too much & seeing my face and talking to me as much as we used to would hurt him more. but all he wanted for his bday was to see me this summer, and i'm going to try and make it a surprise. if it was anyone else that lived cross country, i honestly would not try this hard. but i can't and won't give up on him. he gives me the most indescribable feeling. i'm going to keep trying untill we get to college and then when we get outa college, it'll be perfect. i'm just scared. and it hurts like hell.
Do whatever it takes. If you love him it’s worth it.
And in my personal opinion I think that since you really love him this much why not be in a relationship? If you both feel that way for each other and are this miserable without one another then you should be together.
There really are so many ways to keep in touch. I know it’s awful not seeing him but isn’t it better to be thousands of miles apart but together in love and heart and soul than to be this upset?
I think once you see him you’re going to realize this. Congratulations on going to visit him! I’m sure it will surprise him so much that he’ll practically fall over! Have a good and safe trip. Good luck with everything, I know it’ll work out for you. :]
Hi... im in a ldr....
its been a year that i am in one... and its been like 10 or 11 months i dont see my boyfriend.... I havent had any problem with that except missing him like hell, of course
Recently,,, i kinda liked a guy.... and well, i really like him a lot now, im still young (17) and one friend told me to enjoy my youth,, and another one told me to try to see what's up with this new guy..... I dunno, im really confused... I perfectly know that he's not the man of my life (which my boyfriend is), but i would like to go out with him though.....
I dunno what to do!! I was thinking to start hanging out with him,, and see what happens, and if something happens to tell my boyfriend, and ask him for a break... but.. i could also hide what's happening, which wouldnt be fair at all....
I really dont know what to do! :/
One thing I can say for certain is don’t cheat.
If you like this other guy enough and he’s on your mind more than your boyfriend is, and you get that warm feeling when you think about or talk about or see him than take a chance with him.
Your friend is right, you’re still young. Just because you’re dating this guy now it doesn’t make you married or engaged. If you don’t like him enough any more and you find yourself having strong feelings for another guy it isn’t fair to any of you if you stay with a guy you’re not all for.
But please, don’t cheat. You have to be mature and weigh all your options, and that may be a very difficult thing to do. But just be honest with yourself and I promise you that you will find the right answer for you.
I hope this helped. Have a good night and keep in touch.
So me and my boyfriend have gone on a break while I decide what I want to do next year. He wants me to join him but I am not sure that is the best move for my career. I have asked for a break so I can think and decide without influence. My friends have told me that it is a sensible move but he is hurting because of it and since it happened earlier today I have felt awful :( Did I do the right thing? Should I just join him or do I need to consider my career?
You absolutely have the right to decide what you want to do. No matter how much you love him, in the end of the day it’s your life. If you love your career and don’t want to join him just yet you do that. He will understand, and if he doesn’t maybe he’s not the right guy for you.
Try not to let any pressure from him impact this. You absolutely did the right thing by taking a break because at the end of it, no matter what the outcome is, it will be worth it because it will be the answer you truly want. And sometimes in life you have to focus on what you want and not what others want.
I really hope this helped and I hope that you find happiness in your decision. Keep in touch. And if you need anything else don’t hesitation to ask.<3
ohh, i forgot to say this big new... I'LL SEE MY BOYFRIEND ON JULY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D
im MORE than happy about ittttt!!!!!!! x_____x <3 :D
Yaay! It seems like lots of my lucky followers are seeing their loves this summer :]
I just read that your LDR is almost over. And I am so EXCITED for you :) I can't wait until summer either, except eventually school starts back up and it's LDR all over again. But I hope you have an amazing summer with your boy!
Thank you so much! I beyond excited :]
And that’s great that you’ll see your boy this summer, have a great time you too!<3