u have no idea of how glad i feel for you!!!!! Im so happy that u'll prove the world and all those around u that ldr WORK no matter the critics and all those bad talks and opinions about it! :)
How were the days while Wil was in Italy? I hope it wasnt that hard for u! :)
Soon u'll be with him and I really wish you the best in life, and of course in love... I wish you both to be happy and deeply in love forever, and to live a wonderful life together n_n
Im gonna miss you in this blog, i dunno if i've said it before but i LOVE this blog, i really do! It was like the first ldr blog i found and started following :) since that day i dont feel that odd and alone -talking about long distance love- anymore (lol)
Thank u for this wonderful blog!! :)
Aww thank you so much! This whole message is so sweet :]
There were good days and bad days when Wil was in Italy but he comes home in two days so none of that matters!
And don’t worry. This blog won’t disappear, I’m going to leave it in very capable hands. And before I go I’m going to give out my personal tumblr for any one who still wants to keep in touch with me. :]
Thank you so much for this message! It really made my day.<3
Four More Days! And Some Very Big News About Long Distance Love.
That’s it! And then my LDR is done. Wil will be home from Italy, we get the whole summer together in our home town and then we’re both going up to Boston for our sophomore year in college. I can hardly believe it; surreal doesn’t even begin to cover it.
Just…wow. I don’t even have words for this past year. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but so worth it. It showed me a lot about myself and even more about my relationship. It showed me that love is always worth it and no matter how far someone is from you love can still exist. Don’t listen to what people say about distance and relationships. People like me and you prove those people absolutely wrong.
Now, with all this being said it isn’t fair for me to keep running this blog. I love it so much and it has given me an immense amount of hope about my situation. At the end of the summer I’m going to be giving this blog away to one of my followers that will be hand picked by my.
In a month or so I’m going to open up the chance to submit to me why you deserve to take over Long Distance Love.
So, keep tuning in. Sending me stories and questions or just saying hi because I love you all. Have a wonderful day<3
Hi! I've been following your tumblr for quite some time now, after recently getting into a long-distance with my boyfriend who moved 1,000 miles away in January. We've almost been together a year now. I hope you and Will get lots of time to catch up after he gets back from Italy! :) I'm sure he's thinkin about you. :)
Okay, I recently accidently discovered when my boyfriend is coming back to visit (June 8th!) and it will have been the first time since January that we have seen each other. We haven’t skyped because it doesn’t work on his computer, so it’ll be awesome to see his face again. And that smile…. Anyways! I’m just wondering if the first time after a long time of not seeing each other is….awkward? He has tons of friends to visit here too and I’m going to try my hardest not to get jealous when he spends one of the days with them….I’m just sorta nervous about the first time seeing eachother again! Any advice for a newbie like me? Thanks. I’m Emma btw.
Well, while it may be a tad awkward I think it will be a good awkward. More surreal even. Because it’s like seeing someone you love so much and then thinking about it going “Oh my God, he’s sitting right next to me!” Just be confident in yourself, yes there are going to be awkward little silences and moments where neither of you know what to say but they’re going to be sweet, not uncomfortable. :]
As for the visiting of friends thing that is going to be a little tough because when you’re with someone who you want all to yourself it’s hard to let them go. Just occupy yourself with other things and don’t get jealous because jealousy can get really ugly real fast.
But over all have fun! Don’t stress about every little thing. You’re going to have an amazing trip.<3
I guess the 'going to Italy' thing is the trendy thing to do if you're a boyfriend in an LDR, because mine just told me that he's leaving this week for his family vacation to Italy and Greece... until June 8th. ARGH. I envy him and want him to go and have a good time but also, I WANT HIM TO BE CONTACT-ABLE Q____Q Oh Gosh... I never had to endure something like this with him [while dating, at least]. However, I am thinking of little projects to do and gifts to buy while he's gone. But I had to share my coincidence with you! Have a good day <3
Wow! Seems like we’re going through basically the same thing! Wil and I have never been this far apart before.
I know what you mean, I want Wil to have an amazing time but at the same time I don’t want to hear about all the cool things he’s doing because I am beyond jealous.
So far I’ve had pretty good luck with being able to contact Wil, we’ve gotten to Skype all but two nights so far so just hope your boyfriend stays in a hotel with free or cheap wifi.
Feel free to talk to me if the loneliness gets on your nerves. Have a good day!<3
I’m going to start off with this: my name is Kayleigh. I started this blog nearly half a year ago and I don’t think I ever mentioned that.
So! It’s me versus the last thirteen days of my long distance relationship. This is it, after these two weeks I get to be in the same town as Wil all summer and then we’re both heading to Boston come the fall for our sophomore year of college.
But let me tell you this, long distance isn’t going down without a fight. It’s going to try and bring me down every single second of the next 312 hours. And to be honest it was hitting me pretty hard until a few hours ago.
I got an unexpected Skype call from my boyfriend.
We got to Skype for a little over an hour and it was great to just see his face and hear his voice and know that he’s safe.
Hi, dont worry about the fact that Wil will go to Italy, im pretty sure he'll find a way to send u even one mail or some sign that he's doing great and that he loves you! :)
My boyfriend lives in Italy, and yeah, time difference is awful (7hours)
I'd recommend u to try not to spend any time alone, 'cause that way u would not feel that lonely :)
And also u could do some special thing for tomorrow (that he's leaving) like, draw him something or write him a letter and read it... i dont know some cute thing :)
Anyway, dont worry, u'll see that the 2weeks will go running! :D
My goodness. This is so sweet! I’d hug you if I could!<3
Wils flight left hours ago and he should be landing any minute now. And although its 9am there it’s 2am here and that is wayy past my personal bedtime. ;P
And I took your advice and did something special for him before he left. I put it on a USB and told him not to look at it until he got to Italy. :]
Again, thank you so much for this message. It honestly made me smile ear to ear. :]
How Do You Be Happy For Someone You Love When You Feel Like Your Heart Is Breaking?
Now, not literally. I;m not heart broken. My heart just may be in a coma for the next two weeks.
Tomorrow afternoon Wil leaves for Italy. He’ll be gone half a month and I’m really and honestly scared. We’ve never been this far apart. We can’t talk on the phone or text or anything. Not only will there be an ocean between us but there’s also a six hour time difference between us. That’s never happened. No matter how far we’ve been we’ve always lived in the same time zone.
He’s touring Italy with The Rutgers Glee club. Which is ridiculously exciting and will probably be an experience like no other. Which is why I’m trying my very best [and failing very miserably] to not be upset about it. I don’t want Wil to not enjoy his trip because I’m being such a downer about being stuck in boring old America while he’s somewhere I’ve always wanted to visit.
BUT. I have some ideas to [try] and keep boredom and misery at bay. We’re both going to have notebook that we write in if something exciting happens that we want to tell the other one and at the end of the trip we’ll exchange them. I’m mostly doing this because of him, he has the worst memory ever. Ever. I’m also going to bring my camera everywhere and document everything. I have plans with friends for a lot of the days. I also may sketch some things because Wil enjoys my silly little drawings for some reason.
So this post is more or less word vomit and me complaining. I know a bunch of you guys span continents and oceans and time zones every day and I think you’re the bravest people ever. It really just proves that love can exist no matter what.
If you guys have any more ideas for me to keep boredom and loneliness away please don’t hesitate to drop by my ask box and tell me!
Also, keep submitting your stories and asking your questions! They’ll help keep me sane. :]
OMGGGG IM GONNA SEE MY BOYFRIEEEEND THIS SUUUMERRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa im soooooo haaaaappppppppyyyy
I thought we werent gonna see each otherrrr until October... but oh man!!!!! THIS IS AMAZING!! i cant believe ittttt :')
Should i tell him now?? or wait more time so its more like a surprise???? :D
I’d tell him sooner than later!
A mean little fun trick I like to play sometimes before handing out good news is making it seem like I have bad news. Like, I’ll call someone and go “Hey, remember how I was supposed to visit in October?…Well. I can’t. But….I CAN VISIT THIS SUMMER.” :D
That’s just a mean little trick I play. But I definitely say tell him sooner so he has time to get ready for it. :]
And congrats on getting to see him sooner, that must be beyond exciting!
That is honestly the greatest advice; I'm going to do some of those things, that notes one is so creative i just might start doing that! and when i do see him i'll give it to him just before i leave; Thank you so much<333
Hi pretty! :) I just wanna ask, where'd Wil put and write the love letter?
Hmm…I’m not quite sure I understand the question but I’ll try my best to answer it!
Wils not very good at letter writing because his handwriting is so bad so he doesn’t mail me stuff often. But when he does it’s a pretty short, but meaningful message. I can’t remember all the stuff that he puts in it but there’s usually something about him missing me and a story or two that is pertinent to us. And then he sends it via USPS and a week later it’s in my hands!
hi :) so i'm driving to see my long distance girlfriend in about a month. we live 9 or 10 hours from each other, we'll have been together almost six months by then, and we've never met before.
i just wanted to know if its normal to feel like - even though we've texted, talked on msn, and skyped all this time - everything might fall apart when I see her for the first time? :\
Well I’m not really sure to be honest. My boyfriend and I have grown up in the same town since we were little and dating for about 10 months before our LDR started.
So, I’m going to give advice to the best of my abilities. I’m sure it is going to feel very surreal. Because of course she’s your girlfriend and you care about her but you’ve never gotten to see her right there. It must be a scary experience. But trust your feelings and everything is bound to go well. Try not to be too nervous and have a great time! :]<3
Oh! And I wanted to thank you for the lovely message^__^ I'm happy you liked it! I posted it onto my blog and my boyfriend just loved it, so I thought it be nice to share it with others who understand.
I love your page, by the way. All you pics make me go 'Awww...<3' and I spam my boyfriend with them going 'LOOK! LOOK! THIS IS US. THIS IS SOOOO US! <333333'
Glad to see that this site helps you! Again, I really loved your story. And I’m glad you spam your boyfriend with things on this site! ;]
William and I! We’re both back in New Jersey [although he’s leaving for Italy in five days] and we went on a picnic earlier this week. We’re both big photography nerds so it’s always fun going on outings with him.
Send me a submission of you and your partner having fun together, on Skype, whatever! With a memory attached to it. :]
Hi! :) i have a question.. I am in a long distance too. can you help me how to have a nice love letter for her? we've been 6 months far from each other. :) and we maintain our relationship strong! :)
I'm glad I've found your blog! It hepls me a lot. :)
hope you answer this :)))
I love letter writing, so let’s see if I can’t help.
A love letter is something that can mean so much even if it says four sentences. Wil wrote me a letter once at the start of our relationship that just said “I think you’re swell. Also, I dislike Oprah. But mostly I’m thinking that you’re swell.” and to this day it makes me smile.
So, in starting a love letter I usually say that I miss them and I’d give anything to have them here or to be there. From that I naturally move into talking about a memory I have with him. And how I can’t wait until he’s here so we can make even more amazing memories.
Something else I like to do when I write a letter is do something personal for my boyfriend. I enjoy drawing but really don’t show my sketches to anyone so whenever I write Wil a letter I include a little sketch and that is almost always his favorite part of getting a letter from me. So include something personal that you did. Maybe a photo you took, lyrics you wrote, a drawing, anything you really enjoy doing but maybe don’t show people a lot.
Just write about her, how you love her and miss her and can’t wait to see her. Write whatever is in your heart, as long as you do that I’m sure that it will make her whole week and she’ll treasure that letter forever.
My boyfriend and i are having some distance problems here lately.. I'm in Oklahoma and he's in new jersey, its about 20 hours away from me and i was thinking of traveling by bus (Greyhound) For our one year in July..but right now he's basically staying in his car... i'm just having such a hard time dealing with the fact i probably wont see him on our one year and the saddest part is hes my longest relationship... /: How can i possibly make our one year good even if i might not be there?..
Don’t enter the task with a feeling of defeat first of all. There are so many ways to make it work. While you can’t physically be there you can both have a “date” together.
Something that Wil and I like to do is download the same movie and watch it at the same time while on the phone together. We make popcorn and eat snacks and it’s really a fun thing to do.
Something else that is more personal is something I did for Wil for our one year anniversary. I wrote reasons why I loved him on slips of paper and folded a bunch of them (about 300 of them) and put them in a jar and gave it to him. That way if he was ever feeling down or like he missed me too much he could just open up a little slip of paper that read something like “I love your laugh, so smile.” and think of me and maybe be a little happier. SO maybe you could do a project like that and mail it to him.
Another thing is showcasing your talents. Maybe you’re good at drawing, singing, photography, writing? Anything really! Do something that involves that and mail it to him. For example; Wil plays guitar and sings so he records me songs every so often and e-mails them to me or sends them to me on a CD and it’s a great way to connect with him.
You don’t have to do something big and expensive for your anniversary, it’s about loving each other and knowing that that love can span miles.
He's in Italy for two weeks? Well... when my boyfriend goes camping with no phone on certain weekends I usually like to make him stuff during the time he's gone-- witty diary entries about my weekend to share with him, pics of me holding a creative sign with his name and posting it on his Facebook wall, leaving a cute voicemail on his phone, etc. You can use that time to make a surprise for him!
Good ideas! Wil and I are both going to keep a notebook with us and if anything of importance comes up we’re going to write it down so we don’t forget and then let the other one read it when he gets back. :]
I’m sure my creative/cutesy side will flourish when he’s away.
So, in a weeks time my boyfriend Wil will be stepping on a plane to tour Italy with his Glee Club [I am BEYOND jealous] He’ll be gone for two weeks and we won’t be able to talk on the phone and who knows if we’ll be able to Skype. Since he’ll be moving around nearly every day we don’t know when, where, or if he’ll have internet access.
Now, I know a lot of my very strong followers have relationships like this every day which is why I need you guys. I’ve never had an ocean between us and I don’t know what I’m going to do when I do. I know after these two weeks our long distance will be completely over, we’ll have won. But I don’t want to count my chickens before they hatch. These two weeks will be the hardest of our relationship and I’m going to need a lot of help getting through them.
So submit advice for me! Tell me how you and your loved one do it! Or just submit your own love story, and don’t forget to keep asking me questions.
Submitted by ginaxmalice: Because everyone has their story. That, and I know I'm not the only follower in an LDR with someone they never met in person before...
I was verbally bullied by a bunch of female peers in the sixth grade, so when entering middle school my whole focus was trying to be that goth chick who was ‘so deep’ and no one understood.
Needless to say, my public appearance and shallow teen subculture mattered much more to me than boys.
By the time I got over my immature egotism [and onto my current ‘mature-and-cool-beans’ ego focused on the underground and geek scene, along with my education] it seemed like everyone have dated and reached ‘all bases’ [whatever the fuck those things are…].
I felt like the awkward virgin at E V E R Y T H I N G: I’m straightxedge and single since birth, so I didn’t go to parties or have stories of hook-ups, wasted-ness, or ‘being-below-the-influence’.
But you know what? I promised myself that prolonging and waiting would all be worth it in the end:
I was going to find this guy who was a painter/art major at some artsy-fart college who had the same music, film, literature taste and world perspective as me.
We we’re going to be that chill couple who were like BFF&E.
He was going to be the first-and-last boyfriend/kiss/husband. And he would take me to art galleries and punk concerts and cult film showings where we’d dress in drag and made vulgar jokes.
But most of all, he would take me to Zombie Ball— he’d pick me up, decked in a shabby second-hand-store tuxedo and zombie make-up and be speechless as he saw me in one of my high school prom/ball gowns with fake maggots protruding from my skull and at that moment he’d kiss me [with some of his fake blood lingering at my bottom lip after he pulled away] and tell me I was the most beautiful girl he’s ever seen and that he was in love with me.
Then, we marry after we graduate and live in one of those Victorian houses and I would become a fashion designer and he’d be a famous painter. We’d have crazy-artistic kids and live happily ever after.
But not everything goes according to plan.
Because your geeky-side gets the best of you and you meet a internet-buddy from a forum about a video game and you start IMing him constantly and start getting romantically involved with him. However, you’re not ‘dating’—just involved. And then things get reeeeallllyyy messy and you get so mad you stop talking to him.
But then the bastard calls you half a year later to fulfill a promise: he wishes you a happy birthday. And the *BAM* you’re talking again, getting mixed messages from the guy until you finally figure it out and say ‘fuck it!’ and try to destroy anything romantic you feel with him.
Your old crush from high school asks you out and then you guys are dating— and you really like him, so problem solved… right?
But no, that boy steals your first relationship, date and kiss during your eighteenth year of existence to only [after a four months into the relationship] say,
‘Hey, fuck you. You were nice to have right after I return from Boot Camp, but I got my friends, my internet, my booze and my weed back. So shoo!’
…and you leave him— and you’re prolly the only person hurt from the break-up [it was one-sided break-up after all].
So after failing at romance [you blame it on being so ‘inexperienced’ in dating compared to others your age] your friends encourage you to forget about ‘those assholes’ and to meet a guy at the university you’re attending. So you’re thinking,
‘YEAH. New era for Gina Malice!’
Until your internet-buddy [that you have tried so hard to just ‘be friends’ with] asks you out. On Skype. And then you’re all ‘lolwut?’
You think of all these excuses to date him…
‘Just date him, it’s what I always wanted. Then, when I break up him I can finally move on cause I finally got a taste of what I wanted.’
‘He still seems broken about his ex, so I’ll date him until he feels better and is ready to find another lucky girl to make his world. I’m going to be a good friend to him.’
‘I’ll date him. However, I’ll be non-nonchalant and uninterested and bored in the relationship. Then dump him as revenge for everything.’
‘It’s a joke; another one of his sick games. Maybe if I finally play and lose, he’ll leave me alone and I can finally get over him.’
Okay… so I go into this relationship with all my armor on, until I check my phone the next morning with a text from him that are along the lines of
‘I wish you a good morning and a wonderful day at school.’
And then my armor denigrates into dust as that big, silly grin morphs my indifferent mouth-expression as I bounce around foolishly like a child at the text message.
“He likes me. He really, honestly likes me.”
And then *BAM*… the artsy/painter boytoy is no longer an option I’d ever want to consider ever ever ever again.
Because even though I’m in a long-distance relationship with an internet acquaintance that had its handful a bumps in the beginning [but that’s normal for any genuine relationship— hell… bumps are normal THROUGHOUT any relationship], I quickly realize that people can change and can make the best out of second chances.
Before we knew it, we have become the world to each other, and beyond the stupidity of our younger years all of that was worth it to get to this stage.
I love him.
And I know we are going to be challenged as we are both an LDR and that we met on the internet, but in reality we’re just as normal as the ‘traditional’ couples.
[I’m sorry mom and dad don’t know about us yet… but you wouldn’t approve of us because of the stigma that is attached to my relationship.]
I mean, we have phones, web-cams and the internet at our disposal— along with our never-ending patience— to cheat the distance.
And if I’ve talked to him and seen that he’s not a forty-year-old sociopath murderer…
and if people can do their shopping online their banking online their support groups online their school work online their diaries online find their ‘special female friends’ online and find dates online
… then what’s wrong with me and this everyday man I met on a message board [one about video games, mind you. Not even some eHarmony dating site!] and having such a strong connection that we think it’d be worth dating long-distance?
Fuck the stigma.
You may have answers, but to me it doesn’t matter.
For once I met someone who is completely compatible with me who just happens to live over 3,000 miles away, and I would have never had met him if it wasn’t for the internet.
Hi :) I need some ldr advice, I'm asking you because I've seen that you give some good advice. Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months. We met online so we haven't met yet in person. We always talk about the things that we would do together in the future. So today I decided to talk to him about college. We're both Juniors now and we were trying to find a college where we can both go together but I told him I want to go to a college that's in Boston, where I live. So then he told me that he wants to go to either Japan or Italy for all his 4 years and that probably we wouldn't talk. I don't know what to do because he told me that I would probably break up with him. But I know I wouldn't cuz I love him so much to let him go but he never seems to understand that. So I don't know what to do cuz he's like doubting me that we'll be able to still stay together even though we don't talk or thats he's in another country.
Well if he does decide to go somewhere far off give it a try. There’s no reason to break up with someone just because there’s a chance something might work. If that were the case and everyone was doing that we’d all be single.
Just tell him how you feel. I’m a big believer in saying what’s on your mind. Maybe you’ll bring up a point he didn’t realize. Don’t make him feel pressure to come to Boston though because that isn’t fair to him. College is a very important thing and you can’t base your school choice off of where your significant other is.
That being said, I’d collect your thoughts an talk to him in a calm manner and just explain that you love him and support his decision to go where ever he wants but you really believe that the two of you should give your relationship a shot because you’ll never know until you try.
I really hope this helped! Get back to me and let me know if everything works out. Good luck.<3
I’m at the end of my semester. My first year of college is done and tomorrow I’ll be back to New Jersey.
I can’t believe that I’ve gone through everything I did this year and I wouldn’t change a single thing.
Let me explain that college is no where near easy. Between finals, clubs, maintaining a relationship and trying to pack up my whole dorm I haven’t had a lot of time for the internet. I’m really sorry that I haven’t been updating enough, I can’t believe I lost 15 followers because I have things to attend to.
I just wanted to thank all of you who have stuck with me! It means a lot to me.
So, while I’m going to be back in NJ within 24 hours for four straights months I still don’t get to see Wil until June. You see he’s in his schools Glee Club and they have to stay at school to sing at graduations and whatnot until the 17th and then, on the 18th, he’s leaving for a two week tour of Italy with the club. Needless to say this club gets on my nerves.
He’s never been that far from me. We won’t be able to text or call because that’ll run up both our cell phone bills a whole lot and we’re not sure if he’ll get wifi enough to Skype every now and then. I’m pretty worried about the trip overall, I haven’t gone a day without talking to him in nearly two years…Which is why I need you guys!
So, you all know the drill, keep the questions and submissions coming and have a great night!<3
Thank God for this page. I am in a brand new long distance relationship. I just want to know more people are tackling this same thing that I am. I love it, but I really hate it. haha, and it's comforting to read these things. So tahnks for that.