Yeah I totally agree about loving and hating computers all at the same time! When it works for us it's my best friend but due to him working on a ship and them using (a crap) satellite signal I am lucky if the stupid thing works enough for us to talk once a week.
I’m glad I’m not the only out there who has a love/hate relationship with technology. :D
Your post about getting ready to close the distance made me so happy! It sounds like everything should work out for you! I’ve been pretty down the past week because my boyfriend was supposed to come here for his summer holidays but he just doesn’t have the money and has things he has to get done over summer at home. There have been a lot of tears recently and I’ve almost felt angry or disappointed by this all because I thought we would get to see each other every 6 months, not once a year BUT he graduates at the end of this year and has said once he has his diploma he is moving here. He is willing to give up everything he has at home in Philly to come and start a life with me in Australia, a country he’s never even been to. And then I feel guilty for being so upset about not seeing him in June because he is prepared to give up everything just for me. I’m hoping this all works out for him coming here next year, we’ll have a lot to figure out for him like visas and how he is going to work here. But he has already sent an email off to the Dept of Education in my state (he is a teacher) so things are looking up
BTW one of my absolute favourite things to do with my boy too is just sit around and be lazy, go on spontaneous food runs etc. This is why I miss living with him so much. I remember our 9:30pm runs to the supermarket just before it closed for cake and icecream. I can’t wait to have that again
I am beyond glad that I have you guys because as whiny teenager as this sounds other people just don’t get long distance relationships.
As you’ve all probably read here my boyfriend and I will be closing the distance this coming September because he’s transferring schools up to Boston. But I am not the only reason he’s switching schools, he was supposed to be in Boston with me right from the start of college because he loved a school there. Something unfortunately went wrong and he ended up having to stay in New Jersey for a year at a school he didn’t much like. So, he made it very known that he would be transferring for is Fall 2011 semester to a school in Boston.
First people told us our long distance relationship wouldn’t last and now everyone seems to be adding their two cents about how it’ll work when we’re close again. I really just wish people would be happy for us no matter what rather than scolding us for wanting to be close. It’s not like we’re going to be living together, we’re not running off and getting married. We’re simply going to college in the same area. Is that really the worst thing in the world?
Almost everyone who I’ve talked to thinks that the only reason Wil is transferring is because I’m up in Boston. That’s not the case. Even if it was, it’s none of your business.
“To truly love something, you must first give it a chance to fail. If it survives, it is going to be stronger than ever. Distance is pure proof of this, and forever we will love if we survive.”—Unknown (via vivamus)
Hey! well this blog is controlled by two people with is me (julio) and my girlfriend bernice. we're also in the same situation. We live in california same city and all. we've been together for a couple months now but in those couple months, we have been through so much that it feels like we're unstoppable. well berenice is really smart. she got acceoted in to berekely witch is 6-7 hours away from here. now, i love her emensly, as does she to me :P but i just hate the fact that shell be gone for four years. i measn she told me thatd shed visit but i mean its still gunna be hard :l shes always there for me and i mean ALWAYS. its going to be so hard to not be able to physically hold her, kiss her or anything :'(
now being how i am i would of just broken up with her cause i know i will suffer. but i didnt i feel like were gunna work and that those four years will be a little bump in the relationship. i love her a lot and i dont think i can stress enough on how much i do. this will be hard for me i can already feel the pain. :l well thats our story for now. i would love some of your feedback or any advice that you have :)
Some advice I have for this is don’t give up before you even try! You obviously love her very much so give it a shot. Long distance isn’t a death sentence for a relationship. There’s so many ways to stay in touch now-a-days that it’s silly not to try. Plus, it won’t be four years straight. She’ll have long winter vacations and even longer summer vacations, not to mention trips home every so often.
My boyfriend Wil and I went through a similar dilemma when it came time to choose schools. He stayed in New Jersey while I moved out to Massachusetts. And it was more than difficult for us to try and figure out a schedule of how and when we’d see each other and at times I contemplated if it was even worth it. But every time I even mused the idea of breaking up I felt sick because I know I need him.
One hundred percent my advice is to give it a try. Because if you really love someone you’re going to be worse off without them.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for close to 4 months, we met on Omegle and we hit it off really quickly. I thought it was cute because the first night we were on cam goofing off and he kept saying he loved me! I thought it was silly at first but we kept talking and making stupid jokes. Ever since we met there isn’t one day we go without talking to each other through text/msn. He’s 2 years younger than me but I love him so much<3 I’ve been in ldr’s before but none like this. He makes me happy about life, he makes me look forward to better days. In my previous ldr’s I was always depressed, looking for a way to escape from reality. With this guy, he IS my reality and I want nothing more than to make him a part of my life <3. I want to make it work so badly. I wouldn’t do anything to risk losing our relationship which is why I’m going to finish school first and hopefully head over to Florida where he lives. He’ll be in his first year of university by the time I get there. My family doesn’t really know, besides my mom who thinks it’s unhealthy for me to be dating someone far away. She nags me to find someone near here, but she doesn’t understand. It’s really hard, trying to convince people how you can fall for someone so far away. It works though. I believe in it. I’m already saving money to see him (hopefully this summer) even if my mom doesn’t like the idea at first, I will show her how prepared and committed I am. I love him so much <3 It hurts to imagine my life without him. It hurts me to think about the what-ifs. What if I hadn’t gone on omegle!? what if he hadn’t asked me for my email? I don’t care though. Those what ifs do not apply because all that matters is that I have him<3
Wil is currently here in Boston with me, right now he’s at his Accepted Students Day for Suffolk University and has decided he’s going to go. So that’s that. His deposit is in, he likes the school a lot. I really think things are going to work out for us this time around.
I really hope it does because my favorite thing to do is be lazy with him. Last night we sat around in our pajamas and watched Pushing Daisies and Doctor Who and then we made a CVS run to buy Arizona Ice Tea, Kit Kats and a pound of Reeses. [We’re really passionate about Reeses if you guys can’t tell :P]
So here’s to hoping that this all works out.<3
What about you guys? Anyone getting ready to go to a school or university that will bring them closer to the one they love? Well I’d love to hear about it! My ask and submit boxes are open.
I've been with my ldr boyfriend for over a few years now. It's not getting any easier even though I wish it did. I'm starting to slowly get jealous of his female best friend who gets to spend time with him. I don't mind them being friends, but I hate knowing she likes him. I feel insecure, and we don't talk much now. I'm lucky enough to get ten minutes of his time or even five. I never felt so scared of losing him before as much until a few months back. I try to hold onto him, but he seems so far lately. I feel like I'm not part of the life he lives now. I'm afraid to tell him all this because I'm a coward. =/
What should I do? I keep worrying about this every day and only time its not on my mind is when I'm focusing on classes and listening to music. Other times I just think about it all the time. I wish I get to see him so often like many others, but I can't. I don't have the money or the time right now and the time I go to visit him is in July which seems far to me. =/ I really don't know what I should do because I am completely madly in love with him.
Honestly the only thing to do is talk to him. It’s the only way your insecurities are going to get solved. You can always come to me and ask for advice but it will never resolve the problem like talking with your boyfriend will.
I had the same issues with jealousy and I learned it really is best to just have a calm, mature, and honest conversation about all your feelings about this with him. Don’t come screaming at him like a crazy person, just explain to him that you’re feeling a little pushed to the side and that you have a little bit of jealousy about this girl. Do not keep your feelings about this bottled up because it will really end up hurting you and the relationship. Get everything out in the open, you shouldn’t be afraid of talking to someone who should accept you no matter what.
Submitted by chibinatsu: This blog gives me hope ^^
We were just a happy couple at first, never fought, never thought the worse could have happened till last year October when we found out I had to move to another state due to family reasons. At first, a lot of people were negative towards our relationship saying it wouldn’t last for 2 months, but now we’ve been in LD for 6 months+ and proving those people wrong!! :D For a couple of months, it was hard on both of us due to my depression that I fell into and we were constantly arguing over small things and that resulted into having a little break. After the little break, we realized that we couldn’t imagine a life without each other and since then, we’ve been in good terms ^^ we video chat almost everyday and talk on the phone for 3 hours or even more during the weekends. My boyfriend is planning to come over here during the summer for 2 months so I can’t wait for the summer! Finding this blog and knowing that I’m not the only one gives me even more hope that we can do this and finally be together again! :D
Well… My boyfriend and I met 2 years 4 months ago, we met in a singer’s fan community (our favourite singer). He’s from Italy, Im from Mexico We treated each other pretty nicely, and our friendship was so cute, he was always kind and sweet with me. Since the day I added him on messenger (which was like 7months after we met in the community, around August) we’ve been chatting almost every day! The first times, we were so flirty to each other, gosh!! I cant believe how much I liked him since then!!!!! I had never seen him before, but it was like if we were made for each other! Everything was going fine until ends of December, he got in a kind of depression, that lasted almost 6 months, though he wasnt the same with me, i never gave up, I wanted to get him out of that depression and I knew that if I hold on, someday it was gonna worth it. I was surprised by summer vacations in Europe around January!! But i didnt tell him because of 2 things 1) I was kinda scared and 2) He was sad the whole time… We went thru moths of pure breakdowns, and there were many times in which i gave up, but I always went back to him, i simply couldnt leave him Suddenly, on June, I noticed a drastic change, I even freaked out, It had been a while i didnt see him acting so enthusiastic and sweet! After months of workout, he went over his depression.. and we became a couple :) 3 weeks before going to Europe I told him about the trip, and we started planning our meeting!! :D My parents of course dont know I met him thru internet, nor that we’re a couple… So we made up a quite fake story :P WE MET AND OMGG IT WAS SUCH A SWEEET MEETING!!! Since that day i seriously cant keep him out of my mind!!! We got along perfectly, we had lots of fun, and i was myself the whole time! (which is awesome!!)
Now 9 months have passed, our relationship is doing good, he’s not only my boyfriend but my best friend, I adore him. We get angry sometimes, but i guess its normal, we still chat almost every day! And due to the different time zone he always ends up losing sleeping time just to chat with me in skype, also we’ve sent each other bday gifts; I guess its normal for LDR to do so… I need him more than ever!! I seriously need to be with him, to touch him, to feel him by my side, and to spend wonderful and funny moments with him!! I hope with all my heart I can see him as soon as possible!
Hey. you know me but I'm being on anon right now.
i have a problem... i am so happy with my ldr boyfriend. i've never been so happy before. i've dated guys in the past but they cannot compare to my boyfriend. although he's not here, i can't kiss, touch, or hold him, i love him so much. i'm going to meet him next month and i'm so happy and excited. of course there are people who doubt me and tell me wrong and it just makes me so angry. they don't know my relationship because i'm the only one who knows him and vice versa for him.
but through out time, people have become accepting because they see how happy i am. but there's this one boy who was obsessed with me the time i got together with my ldr bf. that boy is my ex. i started getting death threats from him. he followed me home and he tried forcing me to give the items HE GAVE me back to him by saying he'd better see the items in my mailbox. i thought that was the most rudest thing ever. don't come to my house, stay away from me! then i got so much threat and scary text msgs from him. i got to the point of crying so much i felt like killing myself because nobody has hated me that much. nobody ever told me to kill myself. and then i got so much anon msgs from him telling me that the world would be better if i were dead and all that there is to be inhumane.
but my ldr boyfriend comforted me and made me happy again and helped me forget about him because he's nothing. so i finally told my school's officer and the school talked to the boy making sure that if he ever makes any kind of contact with me, the police will deal with him. after a few months i felt so free because i didn't have that weight on me anymore. then recently i've been getting anon msgs from him again because he thought he wouldn't get in trouble because there is no proof of his contact. and last night i received a txt from him last night of him wishing that i will die and calling me terrible names..
i tried so hard not crying on webcam with my boyfriend... he was mad at him as well and tried comforting me.. but i can't stand to lie to him and myself. it hurts so much.... i don't want to die. i love my life.. but knowing an ex wants me to kill myself.. it hurts.....
it hurts my relationship too because i can't be allowed to be happy so him and probably other people..
Oh my God. It’s a good thing you went to your schools officer, let the higher authorities take care of this. Do your best to just ignore him, I know that’s easier said than done but please do. I’m sure you are a wonderful person and NO ONE deserves to be told to kill themselves. He just seems like a pathetic and jealous person.
Save ALL the hateful messages he has sent to you, lock them on your phone so you have proof of the harassment. If he says one more thing to you call the police, do not hesitate and don’t let him scare you into thinking that they won’t be able to help because they will.
Darling, I’m sure you are a wonderful girl and you have so much to look forward to. Don’t let him ruin that, do not listen to him. Everyone deserves to live their life and live it without fear. Don’t focus on him, do not give him the satisfaction of answering his hateful messages. Simply call the police next time he says something like that to you because that is harassment and you do not deserve that.
Please let me know how everything turns out. Do not hesitate to talk to me, I am always here for you and I mean that.<3
I've been in a LDR for a long time now and lately we hardly talk. I'm starting to get worried and I don't know what I should think. I remember him saying he used to feel awkward not talking to me everyday, but now it's like he doesn't want to talk to me or feels like it. I'm always wanting to talk to him because it does actually feel weird if I don't even talk to him for a little in a day. I don't ask for much except for maybe a little bit of conversation when he's busy. Should I be worried about anything? I'm very insecure and it makes me scared if I'm ever gonna lose him. =/
Well, the first thing I’d do is tell your boyfriend this. Don’t say it in a whiny or angry way, just be very matter-of-fact about it. Because things don’t just magically get better and problems don’t get solved by sitting around and hoping they will.
Now, should you be worried? That depends. If he shows absolutely no interest in talking to you and you more or less have to force him to spend five minutes on the phone with you, I’d be a little concerned. Although he could legitimately be busy, and while you shouldn’t have to fall by the wayside, his priorities may be a little out of focus right now and he may just forget to call or text and it could be a total accident.
I suggest you talk to him about this because you two are going to be able to find a solution to this, while I can only offer advice. Have a good day, hope everything works out. :]
So my boyfriend and I have been together for over half a year now. Although, he is graduating this month. And I still have two years to go. He plans to write pre-med evaluation tests this Summer in California, then travel all fall, and he may, perhaps come back to our school in January to raise his GPA. (My school being in Canada) However, it's totally undecided, he may end up in med school in California instead at that time. It's all uncertainty. I could hardly handle being away from him for three weeks during Christmas break, but for eight months til January? And even then, possibly longer if he does not return? It’s heart-breaking, I’m not sure if I can do it, what gives you the commitment/the desire to keep LDR working for you? I hope and pray I can make it work too.
The desire I have to keep my LDR going is the simple fact that I love him; nothing more, nothing less. I cannot imagine not being with him and he feels the same way about me. Now this doesn’t make a long distance relationship any easier. We’re still apart the majority of the time, just with the promise to be together in the end.
If you guys really love each other I say that’s enough to keep a long distance relationship going. On the chance that you don’t I would seriously look into keeping your LDR going or not. Because that’s a lot of effort to put into something if you’re not fully committed.
Don’t end the relationship just because you’re scared it won’t work out though. Take this into a lot of consideration and make sure your boyfriend is on the same page as you.
I hope this helped. Have a good day and I hope everything works out.<3
Okay, I met this boy on Tumblr and he's just amazing. Everything about us just clicks, and now we can spend around four/five hours on skype just talking - hell, a couple of times we reached seven. But he's literally on the other side of the world to me. I'd be prepared to wait to meet him, because there's been nobody like him, he talks me through my problems and tries to boost my self esteem - exactly as I do for him. There isn't a thing about him that I can talk about negatively. My friends say it's pointless and I'm too naive ect. but we can't go a day without texting or contact and all I can think about is him.
Most of the people I've seen in LDR have met each other before.. So I guess I just want to know if you think this could work? Because we both are determined to make it work, but I guess I need a little reassurance that I'm not being naive or anything..
I absolutely 100% think it can work. With this modern day and age of technology people meet online all the time. You friends only speak that way because it has obviously never happened to them, which is fine they just don’t understand where you’re coming from right now.
If you cannot go a day without being in conversation with him I’d say those are real feelings and no one can tell you otherwise.
If you like him, go for it. There are going to be a lot of people who tell you LDR doesn’t work but you just have to prove them wrong.
Best of luck, please let us know how it turns out.<3
My week has been very busy and stressful [although I still cannot pin point why] so I’ve been neglecting the internet, and I apologize for that.
So, here are some updates! Wil sent down his deposit to Suffolk University meaning [if nothing goes horribly terribly wrong] he’ll be here in the fall with me! I wonder if it’ll be hard to adjust from being in a long distance relationship…
But, since I won’t be in an LDR anymore I don’t believe that it’s fair that I keep this blog. I love it with all my heart and I created this community to bring us together but it’s not fair to run it and not be in a long distance relationship. I’m not sure what I’ll do with it yet but I’m thinking of giving away my blog to someone who is LDR and that I know will take care of it but this will not begin until August. I really want to see it go to someone who will really love it so in August I’ll set up guidelines for how to enter to be selected to take over Long Distance Love.
But enough with all that sad stuff, what’s up with you guys? Any new tales of love and romance? Any questions that have been burning in your mind? If you’ve got anything with my be sure to ask or submit!
Have a good day guys<3
[And I’ll try to be more consistent in this blog this week, I promise.]
Hellooo :) I just want to say I hope you have the most wonderful time with Wil this weekend and I hope everything works out to bring him closer to you! It's getting so close now to when I see Gi and I'm getting more and more excited every day! I can't imagine what it's going to be like when I see him again for the first time! We've fallen even more in love during the time we've been apart and I can't wait to have him physically there in front of me! It feels like it's been SO long, but I know it's worth it :) He was planning to do a business internship in America after this semester but visas and everything are so complicated that he said he might start off in England which would be AMAZING because it means that we could be together every day :) I want to thank you again for this blog, it's given me so much strength over these past few weeks and it's made me realise that I'm not alone in my situation. Thanks for bringing this community together and I wish you the best of luck with Wil :) Have a great weekend! xxxx
Thank you! I got back last night and it was such a great weekend.
Good luck to you and Gi! That’s so exciting that you may be together everyday so soon.
And thank you so much for the kind words about my blog. I’m so glad that I can help people. I made this blog just to show myself and other that we’re not alone in this.
How do I overcome jealousy? My boyfriend is in 5000++ miles away from me, and his friend is dating this one girl who i used to hate (cause she had like dirty talk with my ex boyf a few years back but thats another story), and that girl hangs out in their room EVERYDAY, like from the time their class ends, until everyone goes back. i trust him, i just dont trust her and the people around him. so how can/do i overcome this over possessive-ness and jealousy?
I have the same way of thinking. I trust Wil no matter what, it’s just the other people I don’t trust. And while that’s an okay way of thinking it isn’t very practical. You can’t spend your whole relationship nervous or angry about something your boyfriend isn’t even thinking of doing because it’s going to get old really fast.
I really got over jealousy when I realized that there’s nothing I can do about it. You have to trust your partner until they give you reason not to. If your boyfriend is amazing to you and loves you just as much as you love him there’s no way he’ll do anything to hurt you. I know this sounds easier said than done but once you come to terms with it both of your lives get less stressful. Believe me.
And just because couples are LD doesn’t mean one person will cheat. Someone can cheat on another person if they live in the same darn house or if they’re thousands of miles away. It all boils down to you two and how much you care about each other.
So go ahead, let that girl like him because I can promise you that if you’re relationship is strong she’s the last thing on his mind.
We've been together for over a year now. But it's been 4 months since I last saw him because he took off to the states for college. We're 9000 miles apart and although he'll be back in 6 weeks for summer break, it just gets harder to cope everyday. I can feel us drifting and it's sad that we rarely have anything to talk about over daily text nowadays (I hope its just a phase). Skype sessions are limited because it seems to end on a bad note every other time. I hate that I'm engulfed with such thoughts nowadays - not knowing whether to wait or give up. If we hold on, we have to endure 4 years being apart. :( Can you tell me how to keep myself distracted and positive about my ldr?
Keeping positive is easy as long as you’re in the right mindset. I really believe that if you walk around all day and only focus on the negatives of an ldr you’re not going to be too happy most of the time. People tend to not see the positive of this situation too easily but here are some things I do:
Don’t just dwell on your boyfriend! Get out there and do things for yourself. It’s always important to keep yourself distracted in a social way.
Send little gifts to one another. Just last week Wil mailed me a letter and it made my whole day.
Don’t see the distance as some never ending monster that can’t be defeated. Look at it as a challenge that was put in place for you two.
Make time for each other. I know you said that some of your Skype dates end bad but rather than letting it get to you two try just talking it out. It sounds more difficult than it is, trust me.
Don’t focus about how much time you’ll be apart, focus on the minutes you have together. Enjoy every second of when he’s home for summer break, DO NOT just focus on how much time until you two are separated again.
I don't know if you remember me, but I had asked you about my relationship without labels, and that we've been talking for four years? I had asked for help. and I just wanted to say, with what you told me it changed alot of things, we're now in a relationship, and we're spending two weeks together this summer in miami.
I don't know how to thank you.
But thank you : )
Yes, I do remember you and oh my goodness! I’m very happy fir the two of you. It honestly makes me so happy that you two are together, even though I don’t know either of you two, it really makes me happy to see people giving love and relationships a chance.
I wish you much luck in your relationship and have a great time in Miami together!<3
So I’m posting this from my lovely seat on a Greyhound bus that cost me $36 dollars and might I say it’s worth every penny. The bus has wifi, charging plugs, no one is sitting next to me, oh, and it’s bringing me to the boy I love!
I got on at 8:30am and should be to NJ in about three hours. I can’t even describe the rush I get when I first see Wils face at the bus terminal. It’s like nothing else. It’s so weird to think that we’re so close to not having to make these 5 hours trips soon. While things still aren’t concrete about next year I have a really good feeling about all of this.
So, how are your LDRs going? I’d really love to hear from you guys! Drop me something in my ask or submit box :]
P.S-If you submit something make sure you have proper grammar and whatnot, it is much appreciated!
Going the distance is an amazing movie. First it has my favorite Hollywood couple of all time, Justin Long and Drew Barrymore. And second, it really made me consider long distance when I watched it. At the time, I was broken up with my boyfriend because we were too scared to try long distance. And when I watched it, I bawled my eyes out and made me miss him even more. But now that we are back together, I know its a good movie especially for couples in long distance! GO GET IT, STREAM IT, WATCH IT NOW :)
Haha, well there you have it followers! If you have not seen Going The Distance it’s apparently amazing!
I know I’ll be downloading it some time this week and letting you all know my opinions on it. :]
Thank you very much caiteelise for this very enthusiastic review of it! Have a really good day everyone<3
So glad I found your blog :)!
I'm in a ldr and have been for two years, But sometimes I find it extreamly hard to cope with the distance (8hrs to travell to eachothers by car) So,
How do you cope with the distance, like what do you do to not get upset that you cant be together everynight?
Well distance isn’t easy and it always sucks to be away from him everyday. Something that really helps me out is the fact that I know that even if he won’t be here physically I will see him, we Skype every night and try to watch some TV together a few times a week.
Something that he does for me nearly every night is play me a song. Wil plays guitar and he’s constantly learning new songs and playing them for me when we Skype. I usually just lay there and close my eyes and pretend he’s with me for just a few minutes. Sometimes I even fall asleep when he plays because I’m so relaxed by it! He’s also recorded me nearly ten songs and when I’m feeling down I just listen to them and remember that even though he’s not there to hold me or kiss me he is with me in some way all the time.
Hope this answered your question! Have a great day :]
also I am SO sorry that I didn’t get to your question until now! I’ve been quite busy and forgetful ^//^
Submitted by thewallflowerconfessions: OPINIONS NEEDED!! LDR Situation!
I did post this on my own blog but thought I’d get better feedback on here :)
Its ‘someone specials’ 21st at the beginning of July… unfortunately I live in Australia and he in England… I have not seen him for two months now..two months that seem like forever I might add.
I am meant to be moving to England for student exchange in August..however I would really like to do something nice seeing as its a 21st…and a 21st is a big deal… I’ve had a thought..Please let me know what you think:
I have a cousin in England, she lives probably 2 hours away from his town. I want to send ‘him’ a message with something along the lines of “Hiya, I need to ask you to do something!! Seeing as you’re turning 21, I’ve gone a little out of my way to arrange something for you with Georgias help (FYI georgia is my cousin, he knows this but for those reading just thought I’d fill you in..anyway cont.), it cannot be posted…I really want you to receive it..she is willing to meet you half way…I will pay for the train fare as I know from experience they are not cheap. I know it could be awkward but she just needs to give it to you..I know you’ll love it & I really want you to receive it close to your birthday.. let me know a date thats good for you between the 20th of June and the 10th of July and I’ll get back to Georgia..shes friendly I promise :P….”
The thing is, I want it to be me waiting there not Georgia to surprise him.. But without him knowing… I’d even bring gifts cause I’m that nice haha..no seriously please give me feedback..I feel like I really want to do this, but it will take alot of figuring out…and so much secrecy…not my strong point..
Opinions would be wonderful
Hey there thewallflowerconfessions! Personally I think this is a wonderful idea, it’s so sweet and such a good surprise. He’ll probably die [not literally of course] when he sees it’s really you there! It’ll take a lot of planning but I think it is 100% worth it.
Followers of Long Distance Love, what do you think?
I just ordered my bus ticket to go see Wil this weekend and I realized that this very well may be the last five hour trip we have to make to see each other. He got accepted into a school in Boston near me for next semester so if everything works out with that my LDR is going to be over before I even realize it.
It’s so weird to think that a year ago today I was probably so upset over starting my long distance relationship and now I’m so used to it and so positive about it.I can’t believe this weekend may be the last time we have to do this, this may be the last nearly $50 I need to spend on a bi-weekly basis to see him, this may be the last month of constant Skyping and texting.
Now with all that being said I have to add that this very well well may not be the last month of long distance for me. Things could go wrong just like they did last year. Last year he was supposed to be in Massachusetts with me but something financially didn’t work out so he had to stay in New Jersey while I left and it could very well happen again.
So everyone send me and Wil a wish and hope that this all works out! And know that your long distance relationships won’t last a lifetime. I promise.<3
I love these. Since my love is currently in Germany (playing playoffs for the Wolfsburg Grizzly Adams) and I am in California, I love the idea of a cutting out heart maps of both locations. I collected a couple of maps while in Germany and always have had a good amount of old United States maps laying around the house (since I was a geography major in college). This is my new project for the day!
hello, lovely LDR community. It is so nice to read all of your stories and have people to confide in and vent to.
Jason and I met last June of 2010. It’s really funny how we met. He is the God-Father to my God-Daughter; he is also my best friend’s husband’s best friend. Tongue twister, that. After hearing many stories about me from my best friend, he decided it would be a good idea to add me on facebook. oh lawd.
After getting to know each other a bit through facebook and encouraging him to get an xbox, we started talking late into the night on xbox live. We became best friends really, but were both hesitant to confess our feelings. We’d both been burned many times before; as a matter of fact, he just helped me through a really bad break up so I was definitely not looking for anything…. but something had sparked.
We talked for three months straight, when I decided it was time for us to meet. My best friend and her DH were making a trip to Iowa, where Jason lives, and she suggested I come along so she has someone to hang out with. I said, hell yea!
I made the 700 mile trip on plane and then on a bus from Charlotte, NC to Davenport, IA in November 2010. As soon as I stepped off the bus I got the biggest bear hug ever and swooned! That night, he wasn’t able to stay with us because of work responsibilities but the next nine days we were inseparable; movie watching and video games filled with snugs and kissing, outdoor adventure filled with stolen hugs and hand holding!
Everything was not perfect though. He didn’t know whether we would make it and because of this feeling he didn’t want to make us official. Which really did devastate me to be honest. Fortunately, his tune changed within four days of me being home and talking to him every night. I guess I just needed to prove to him that I was serious.
I hate to sound cliche, but from the moment I laid eyes on him that November, I knew he was the person I had been waiting for. Since then he’s come down here in January and March; I’m on my way up to see him again in 17 days!
I don't know if it's been mentioned on this blog or anything before, but Going the Distance is a movie about a long Distance relationship between Drew Barrymore who lives in San Francisco and Justin Long who lives in New York.
No one has mentioned it on this blog yet. I haven’t seen it because I’m not the particular fan of Drew Barrymore. But I heard it’s good! Any opinions on it out there?
So it occurred to me that you guys have shared your love stories with me but I’ve never shared mine. So, every now and then I’m going to open up about some part of my relationship. I can’t ever write the whole thing because frankly it’d take pages upon pages to explain how me and Wil came to be boyfriend and girlfriend properly.
This couple, right here, defined love for me when I was a child. It’s James Stewart and Donna Reed, they stared in It’s A Wonderful Life as George Bailey and Mary Hatch. Every year around Christmas my family and I would watch this movie and I would admire their love story, how their love seemed effortless, and how through good and bad the stayed together. I dreamt of one day having a love like that.
Through the years I never found anyone who shared my love of the movie, one time I even had a boyfriend who called it dumb! I should have dumped him right then and there. I could never find the George Bailey to my Mary Hatch until Wil. He was kind, handsome, witty, and a perfect gentlemen.
One day, one of the first times I was over his house, I was just poking around and all of the sudden I turned and saw a full sized poster of It’s A Wonderful Life hanging in his basement. I looked at it for a bit before turning to him and nervously asking “Do you like this movie?” And he replied “I love it, my family used to watch it every year around Christmas.”
My heart flipped. It was in that moment where I knew I would get the love I had dreamed of in him. He is and always will be the George to my Mary.
I wanted your opinion.
We've been talking for about four years now, and I've always thought it was along the lines of a LDR, but he told me the other day he thought of what we have as a relationship without labels.
He still says "I love you" and "I miss you" but I don't know what he means when he says a relationship without labels. and he despises elaborating.
Okay well…this is tricky.
I say if you want a relationship you tell him because that’s not fair if one of you wants a relationship and the other one doesn’t really but still treats it like a relationship. Make sure he’s as into you as you are to him because no one wants to be in a one sided relationship.
And no one likes to think it but make sure he’s not just using you for all the emotional stuff of a relationship and using some other girl who lives near him for the physical stuff.
My advice is to tell him you need to know the definition of what’s going on between you two because that’s only fair to you.
Submitted by sentimentalgeek: Sydney-Philadelphia. 16,247 miles.
I just stumbled across your tumblr and this whole ‘ldr community’ this week and it has given me so much to think about and some comfort to know how many others are in a similar position to me.
My boy lives in Philadelphia and I’m in Sydney. An ocean and continent apart. 16, 247 miles, or a 21 hour flight to be exact. We met last year as exchange students in Germany and within a week knew we were meant to be. We had four amazing months together in Germany, then came out time to go home. I booked a flight to Philadelphia within a month of getting home, then had 5 long months to wait until we could be together again. We got to spend a month together over the Christmas holidays but now I am back home alone. Thursday is his birthday and Friday will be our one year anniversary. I wish more than anything we could have this weekend together, although we don’t even know when we will see each other again. Perhaps June if he has the money, although it is looking like he won’t. Perhaps Christmas. Or we may have to wait until May next year. All I want is for us to be able to pick up where we left off and the not knowing when that will happen really kills me some nights when I lie alone in bed. I love him more than anything, and I know he feels the same way. Distance is a bitch. Time is a bitch. But I know in the long run it will have all been worth it.
That was my rather long-winded story. But I felt after reading your blog and others comments I needed to get my story out there too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us in LDRs. It really does help knowing there are other people out there like us and hearing their stories.