I have no idea what made me think of this but have you guys ever had a really defining moment with your significant other before you were a couple? I don’t know why this popped into my head but I wanted to share it with you guys.
Wil and I were pretty close friends for two or three years before we dated. We became close in a sophomore year english class in high school. And I remember, very specifically, one conversation we had. We were in the library doing research for some paper and he was sitting with me. At this point in my life I was really insecure about my skin, to be honest I had really bad acne [a very embarrassing things for me to admit] So every morning I would put on A LOT of cover-up to hide the redness and all that. Anyways, we’re sitting at a table in the library and he looked at me and said “You know, I bet you’d look prettier without all that cover-up on.”
At first I was beyond embarrassed at what he’d said. I mean, not even my boyfriend at the time had ever said that to me. When I got home I took all the make up off and threw it away. Ever since then I haven’t worn any make up at all. Wil showed me [even if he didn’t know he did] that I could look pretty naturally. He’s been one of the major reasons I’ve learned to accept the way I look throughout the years. That’s something I can’t ever thank him enough for.
I just got back from dropping Wil off at the bus terminal, even though I’ve done it plenty of times I still cry so hard every single time. I watched his bus from the moment he got on to the moment it pulled away, trying not to cry as he waved at me, smiled, and made heart signs with his hands.
This weekend went by wayyyy too fast, I feel like he just got here two seconds ago and he’s already gone. Nonetheless, this weekend was great [not that that makes his leaving any easier]. My favorite part of being with him is that we can have a really good time going out to dinner or a movie but we can have just as much fun staying in and watching old movies in our pajamas. I live for nights like that.
Something I suggest when you finally see your significant other? Don’t think about how much time you have left together that visit, trust me. It really is just depressing and the time you have together should be spent being happy, not focusing on the distance.
The point is a video chat program is essential long distance relationship couples. If one of you doesn’t have a web-cam I highly suggest investing in one. The best part of my day is Skyping with Wil, at first it was a little awkward getting used to just kind of staring at and talking to a computer screen but once I got used to it it actually became a lot of fun.
So here are some ideas for fun Skyping/Oovooing/iChatting! [At least I think they’re fun]
1. Games! Most video chat agents have some form of gaming system. My personal
favorites are Hangman and Sea Battle [which is a knock-off internet version of Battleship] It’s just a nice way to have a bit of friendly competition, and believe me, these games get competitive.
2. Emoticon Conversations! Okay so this is a little far-fetched but it’s a lot of fun. Wil and I open up the chat attached to Skype and one of us just starts putting emoticons in and the other one has to make up a story for what’s happening to the emoticon. For example
, this may not look like much… ->
BUT it’s actually a harrowing story of a young man trying to find love, but he gets beat up and two girls break his heart. Those girls later on become lovers and produce sexy films and make a lot of money and bears love them.
No joke, Wil typed this out and I made up that ridiculous story, it may sound silly but it’s really fun once it gets going.
3. And the most important is to make the other person laugh! That may sound like a no-brainer but it can make for an awkward conversation if there’s no laughter. Wil, for example, likes to make these ridiculous faces as soon as he notices me looking away so when I look back I’m staring into some scary and creepy face that makes me crack up. Earlier this week while we were on Skype I told him his hair looked crazy, immediately after that he dissapeared from the frame and returned wearing a hat yelling “It’d be cuter shorter, wouldn’t it?!”
[And if anyone of you are Scott Pilgrim fans out there, yes, that was a reference :D]
So those are just some ideas to make your Skype dates a little more fun. :]
So I just hit 100 followers and I’m ecstatic. I know it’s not a whole lot compared to some people but to me it’s really exciting.
I first made this blog just hoping to reach a few people but it’s grown into so much more. You guys are awesome and your comments make my day. You all help me get through every minute of distance and I can’t thank you enough for that.
So if there’s ever anything I can do for you don’t hesitate to ask, I’m here for you guys.
Hello again! Remember me? :D I immediately ordered LovingFromADistance bracelets after I saw yours. He finally received his yesterday. I felt so happy and overjoyed! thank you for giving me the idea! I say other long distance couples should do this as well, it's sweet and it's great symbolism for your love from far away! :D
Of course I remember you! I try to remember all my followers who talk to me. :]
I’m so glad you liked the idea, and I definitely think it’s a great gift for people in long distance relationships. I’m so glad this gift worked out so well for you!<3
“I am thinking it’s a sign that the freckles
In our eyes are mirror images and when
We kiss they’re perfectly aligned
And I have to speculate that God himself
Did make us into corresponding shapes like
Puzzle pieces from the clay
And true, it may seem like a stretch, but
Its thoughts like this that catch my troubled
Head when you’re away when I am missing you to death
When you are out there on the road for
Several weeks of shows and when you scan
The radio, I hope this song will guide you home”—
-Such Great Heights by The Postal Service
This song always picks me up if I’m in an off mood. If you’re going to look it up also look up Streetlight Manifestos cover of it. :]
So I just spent an hour and a half working on this. If you grew up on the 90’s you obviously know that its Pikachu and Raichu! The Pokemon I identify Wil and I with [well, I’m not really a Pikachu, I’m more of a Pikachu wearing a Raichu hat cause I think I’m tougher than I am.]
The point of this post was just to say that every couple, long distance or not, should have that dorky little joke between the two of them.
I’m not sure if the seller has anymore of the Link and Zelda necklaces but she’s really nice and you can send her a message asking her when shes going to make them again. I must warn you though the necklaces do not look like the ones she will advertise, they look like the ones that I posted on this blog. (Which are still adorable, just be aware that it’s different than advertised!)
I am SO happy I found this blog. I'm currently in a long distance relationship; I live in Florida, he lives in North Carolina. We've been together officially for two months; it would have been sooner but we were both afraid of the distance. I saw him for New Year's Eve and I'll be seeing him in two weeks when I visit colleges in NC. We've basically been surviving through texting and 5 hour nightly conversations on Skype. This blog makes me really happy because it gives me hope that we can last until/beyond June, when I move there <3 Just thank you for existing.
I’m glad you like my blog! And of course your ldr can last until June and way after. Just because you’re in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean there’s an expiration date on you two. A lot of people may think that way but those are the people who have most likely never even been in a long distance relationship. Good luck with your move to NC and thank you so much for the kind comments.<3
hi, i'm in a long distance relationship. i live in florida, he lives in oregon. if anyone else is in a super-far long distance like this one, or would just like to talk, i'd really appreciate it. we're having some really rough times and i'd just like someone to talk to who understands :'(
If you want to talk I, and I’m sure whoever else reads this, would be more than willing to help. I can even give you my e-mail address if you want to talk about this personally. Good luck.<3
OH MY GOSH! the gifts you gave are so very cute! :D Right after the moment of reading what you gave, I saw the bracelets @___@ at this moment, I'm ordering one for me and my boyfriend! :D
thank you! :3 ~
I’m a really huge fan of giving nifty gifts, especially to Wil. For his birthday last
week I got him a necklace set of Link and Zelda, and they have little magnets inside and <they kiss. I got these guys off a shop on Etsy.com [My absolute favorite website for gifts. If anyone wants the link to this particular persons shop, message me.]
So, that got me thinking about other unique gifts that people in long distance relationships could get their partner. While doing a little internet searching I found
something that I’ve seen at least ten of my followers have posted saying that they wanted it.The LDR Bracelet! You can find it to purchase here!
And this last thing is absolutely adorable. This site, called BoldLoft contains simple doodles of two stick figures in love! Most of the designs are centered around long distance relationships. All you have to do is pick the design you like best and then you can put it on pillows, mugs, things of that nature. It’s a tad pricey but a cute idea. This was my personal favorite thing
I’m sure there will be other posts about gift ideas for your long distance love!
But today has been ridiculously unproductive and lonely, classes don’t start until tomorrow and it was too snowy for me to want to go outside much so you can guess that I had a whole lot of free time to think today. Most of those thoughts were about how lonely I was. I just feel as if my days are so much more productive when I’m with him. But if there’s one thing I learned last semester is that you cannot let loneliness rule your life when you’re in a long distance relationship. You can’t sit around and dwell on all the negatives. It’s fine to miss someone a lot but make sure that’s not the only thing you do all day.
On the upside Wil bought his bus ticket to come see me in Boston. Only 10 more days now. :]
Would you be interested in being interviewed for College Magazine? I would love to feature you in an article I'm writing on about long distance relationships. Please get back to me as soon as possible!
Wow. Yes, I would absolutely love to! I’ll send a message to your askbox with my e-mail and you can contact me in more detail through there. Thank you so much, I feel incredibly flattered right now. :]
In other news it’s my first night back on Boston after break and Wil is hundreds of miles away again. Can’t say I’m excited for it but being away from him means fun Skype conversations and a ridiculous amounts of kisses when I see him (not to mention sleeping in the same bed for a night or two<3)
That’s the exact feeling that comes to mind when I remember that in just about a day I’m going to be on a five hour car ride back to Boston for the spring semester while Wil is in New Jersey for his. We’ve been home together for a month and spending nearly everyday of it together. It’s going to be so hard to adjust from that back to not seeing each other.
But on the bright side we’ve already got our first visit planned out, he’ll be coming up to Boston the last weekend in January. I’m pretty excited about it. :]
I feel that it’s very important [if you’re a couple that is fortunate enough to be within visiting distance] to know when the next time you’ll see each other is. Wil and I try to see each other every two weeks, and we were actually very successful in this during our fall semester! [Despite a lot of people telling me “That’ll NEVER happen.”] We buy our bus tickets to see each other weeks in advance to guarantee we won’t spend too much time apart.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for about seven months but we've been friends for five years. We're both seniors and college is coming up before we know it. We're both going to colleges in different states so we know we won't see each other much. A couple of months ago my boyfriend and I were discussing what we were going to do once college came around. After a long conversation we decided that we'd try to make it work because as I said not trying would be foolish to lose such a beautiful relationship. Basically during our conversation I was the one who was more a ldr and he was the one who was more iffy but he was reluctant and agreed we should try. Recently my boyfriend said that he thinks it would be better if we broke up before college. He said that he'd rather end while we were both not mad at each other than having to end because the distance, time not being with each other, or jealousy would tear us apart. I guess I can understand where he's coming from, but at the same time it makes me really sad that he doesn't want to try. How can I convince him that a long distance relationship is worth it? How did you and your boyfriend decide that it was worth it? He tells me that he loves me so much and I love him too. We weren't foolish in using the word love either. I guess you can say we're a pretty conservative couple and we think out our actions and decisions a lot. But to end our relationship just seems rash. I'm hoping he can change his mind within the next couple of months, but it's just kind of sad to know that the end is coming.
Wow. This sounds a lot like what happened with Wil and I. He and I decided to stay together because honestly we couldn’t see ourselves apart, but this decision was not easy to make. You just need to have a long, serious conversation with your boyfriend about why you think it will work because if you’re both not fully committed it will not work out well. Before Wil and I even left for college we promised that we would Skype every night and see each other every two weeks, no matter what. So we knew from the beginning what we were getting ourselves in to. I agree that there is no reason to give up without even trying. There are so many ways to stay in contact now-a-days that, while the distance is very harsh, it’s very comforting knowing that at the end of the day you have Skype, Oovoo, or the telephone to communicate with him. There really are a million ways to stay together now even through the greatest of distance.
My advice is to have a serious conversation about all of this with him, tell him the things you posted here because no one wants an expiration date on their relationship. There’s no way to force someone into a long distance relationship but if you feel as if it’s right there should be no reasons stopping you.
I really hope I helped. Best of luck. If you have any other questions or just want to talk please don’t hesitate to contact me. Let me know how things work out.<3
I didn't realize what I had signed up for when Jeff and I finally decided to make things official between us. I knew that he was leaving for BMT and tech school for six months. I didn't realize how hard it would be for a relationship to be based on snail mail for three months. Then he went to tech school and we could skype and text. It's not the same though. The two weeks that we got in December were great, but short. I'm finding myself missing him more now than I did back in October when I only heard from him in letters. He comes back in March so that's good, but eventually he'll have to go overseas. It's just so hard, especially since I'm at the age where I shouldn't be settling down. I know that it's all going to work out in the end; I'm just really struggling right now with all of this.
Sorry for the extremely long ask...this isn't even really a question. Just rambling about military boy.
Just remember to enjoy the time you have with him. And I know that sounds dorky but I find the time I have with my boyfriend is so much more enjoyable when I’m not focusing on when it will end.
I know what you mean with feeling like you miss them more even if you Skype or text them all the time. It gets me down because I’m seeing and or talking to him all the time but I can’t reach out and kiss him or hold his hand when I really need to.
And don’t ever apologize for posting! That’s why I made this blog, I wanted people to be able to say their stories and know that they’re not at all alone.
THANK GOODNESS I'VE FINALLY FOUND YOU. I've been in this long-distance relationship going on 7 months now and I have felt so misunderstood. Nobody else understands. People look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them I'm in a long distance relationship at 16 years old.
We started dating December '09 and then by the end of June '10, I found out my dad got a job promotion and that we were moving to North Carolina on August 1st. I thought my world was ending; but when I told Joey, that all changed. He told me he would always be there for me. We've been 852 miles apart for almost 7 months and we've only seen each other once since. Those 5 days went by soooooooo fast. but these months apart always go by so slow. I miss him.
There are days when I just want to cry because I have no one to talk to who actually understands what I'm going through. I'm so glad I found your blog
I’m glad you found my blog too. I created it for people to have some place to just talk about their relationships. Because long distance is anything but easy.
That must have been awful, having to move away after being in a relationship. But it’s great that your boyfriend was so ready to make the distance work! :]
So please talk to me anytime you want because I definitely know what those “need to cry” moments feel life.
Seems like one of the most important things for couples in long distance relationships to know, right?
This is my boyfriend, Wil, and I on our one year anniversary. He came up to Boston so we could be together. We’re both pretty big photography geeks so we can never just take a normal picture. ;]
Sorry I haven’t been updating much! Starting next week there will be a bunch of new updates, I guarantee it. Wil and I are both going back to college Sunday so I’ll go back to having a lot of things to write about.
This is good, now i have someone to talk to =] it is hard but it all goes away when he calls me. in fact when i hear his voice all my problems go away. i found a quote i really like, you might enjoy it too =] it's ...... Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle... rather a beautiful reminder of just how strong true love can be.
isn't that just great? i cried when i read it cuz it is just so true!
You can talk to me whenever you need! And yeah, phone calls are great because no matter how stressed or upset I am just a quick call from my boyfriend can turn my whole day around. :]
Also, I love that quote! I posted it here about a week ago. :]
Hey! :) I felt so great when I found this tumblr :) I've been in a LDR for 6 months now, and yes is hard, but it's so MAGICAL to feel everything you felt the first time you saw him :) It's amazing!
To make a long story short, I met my boyfriend at a cruise. I immediately felt something for him that I never felt before. When I had to leave that ship it was painful. I thought that I wouldn't see him again. We started skyping, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. At the time, I didn't know about LDR's and I wasn't sure of it. But I did it, cause I love him. People were asking me if i was crazy or something.. I didn't mind. We live in different COUNTRIES. And he came for my birthday a month later, and I felt exactly the same way as I felt the first day. 4 days ago, he was here, for Christmas, after 5 months without seeing each other. We felt the same way. I love this, and I'm glad I'm not alone. My family loves him. And in a few months I'll graduate and I'll move to the United States. I want to be with him, and I'm sure I want to marry him :)
i just wanted to wish you guys the best in your LDR's :)
And thank you for making this blog :)
That’s such a sweet story! I’m so inspired by couples who can survive even if they’re in different countries. Good luck moving to the US!
Thanks for the follow~ I love flipping through other LDR blogs now and then. Might not recognize the account, but Eleven:Eleven (morningxmidnight.tumblr.com) is a side blog, so I can't ask using that. ^^;
2800 miles, CA vs. NY, but we're a year (over!) strong and we'll make it work. :] <3
Yaay! Congrats on your ldr, I see so many couples that are completely across the country from each other and it’s amazing that you guys make such distance work so well. :]
I absolutely love writing letters to my boyfriend. I wrote him a 3 paged hand written letter for christmas and sent him a few other things as well.
Right now, I'm skeptical about sending him mail though. I mean, I'd definitely love to send my boyfriend a letter but his parents tend to snoop through his mail. He kept all the letters, notes, and poems I wrote to him over the last few years and when his mom decided to "clean" out his room, she threw away everything including the gifts I got him for Valentines day in 2009. :|
I'd like to be able to surprise him with letters but the last thing I need is for his parents to be snooping into his mail, yah know?
And even if I were to send him one, I'd have to tell him when it gets there.. but then he'd be expecting it.. urgh.
Yeah, that seems like a bit of a problem. That’s kind of really annoying that she threw away all those things from you. And yeah, no one wants their boyfriends parents snooping through the letters his girlfriend sends him. Maybe try warning him the day before to beat his mom to the mailbox but don’t tell him what’s coming. That way it’ll still be a bit of a surprise.
One of my favorite things about being in a long distance relationship are surprises, I’m a huge fan of any sort of [good] surprise!
And one of my favorite is sending a letter to your significant letter even when they’re not expecting it. I mean let’s face it, how many of us actually receive letters anymore? All we get is junk mail, magazines, and stuff of that nature. So how exciting is it when you actually get something personal and unexpected in the mail!
Take the time to write a sweet handwritten note to your significant other, and send it off in the mail. It’ll give your boyfriend or girlfriend something tangible rather than a text or a Skype call and I can almost guarantee that it’ll make them smile. :]
[Personally, I carry around a note that Wil wrote me in high school in my wallet at all times telling me that everything was going to work out, no matter how far apart we were.]
I'm very happy there is a blog about LDR. It's wonderful to know that I am not alone in this. Because in school, when people ask about my "boyfriend" of course, I wouldn't make things up. I tell the truth that I met him via tumblr. and when they look at me with the "O_o" face, I respond "at least I am happy."
you see, how I've been observing couples around me, most go through the lovey dovey stage where no one else exists, but them two. Sooner or later, they get annoyed and tired of each other. Then that special bond shared in the beginning soon fades until nothing seem special anymore. The relationship just feels normal. What happened to the fireworks? but in my long distance relationship, it shows how strong and powerful our love is for each other because we're fighting through the struggle because we never have that chance to be with each other, hold each other, kiss, or look into each other's eyes.
I am very happy with my boyfriend. Even though he lives in California and I live in New Jersey, I wouldn't give him up for any guy, ever.
I agree, having a long distance relationship definitely keeps that feeling alive because when you finally get to see that one person after a long time it’s like you’re kissing them or holding them for the first time all over again. In my opinion, it makes you way more thankful for what you have and makes you appreciate the moments you have together way more than other couples may.
That’s awesome that you can make the distance work all the way across the country! And might I add, go NJ? :D Haha, I’m from Jersey, but go to college in Massachusetts, but my boyfriend goes to Rutgers in NJ for school though.