“But I must admit I miss you quite terribly. The world is too quiet without you nearby. I go to bed early and rise late and feel as if I have hardly slept.”—Lemony Snicket, The Beatrice letters (via xallofthelights)
“I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful at 3am. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful before coffee and after coffee and in between. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful with messy hair and eyes half closed. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you put on your black dress or wear you’re slippers to the grocery store. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you have headphones in and you’re not listening to a thing I say. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you’re laughing or crying or we’re arguing. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you fail an exam and when you top your class. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you can’t find the car keys or bought new shoes or want ice cream late at night. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when you’re late for a meeting or you burnt all the cookies because you didn’t follow the damn recipe. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when the sun is rising and setting or when the day is cloudy or the rain is falling. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when the night is warm and the stars are shining. I’m going to tell that you’re beautiful in front of museums and at concerts and while building sandcastles. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful before the movie and after the movie and while buying popcorn. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful while you’re cleaning or drawing or writing. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful when the plane is landing or we’re catching a cab or we’re walking hand in hand through a park covered in snow. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful in front of my parents and my friends and in front of yours too. I’m going to tell you that you’re beautiful just because I think you are and even if sometimes you don’t think you’re beautiful and you feel just a little worn out; how beautiful I think you are will never be worn out to me.”—dear you - c.p
“Wake me up at 3am just to tell me that I’m not close enough. Wake me again at 7am because we need to get ready for the day. Once more at 7:15 because we both know I don’t do mornings. Tell me about the dream you had last night while we have toast and orange juice. I’m tired as hell but I hear and feel every single word that you say. Ask me how I slept because you feel like you’ve been talking for too long. My answer is always the same when you ask, sleeping next to you is heavenly. Apologize for waking me up at 3 while I assure you that it’s okay and that I’m so glad that you did, then rally in your stubborn persistence the notion that it was out of line. Start explaining how wrong it was. You won’t get very far into your rant because I need to kiss you. Not only to stop you from being ridiculous but because I love you so much more than I can express with words. So please, wake me up at 3am so I can pull you closer and kiss you softly. “I love you endlessly” will be my sleepy response each time; as those four words are the only ones that can even come close to explaining my feelings for you.”—I love you a lot. (via xallofthelights)
“Date someone who would rather watch your favorite movie with you then go to a party on Friday night. Date someone who will share their food with you even though you said you didn’t want any. Date someone who will warm your hands in the winter and kiss your pink nose. Date someone who will text you they love you at 2am and at 9pm. Date someone who will let you change the station in the car when they’re driving. Date someone who can make you smile when you would rather die. Date someone who makes your insides feel like you’ve just downed a bottle of vodka. Date someone who makes you better.”—(via jessielou24)
Long story short, my bf of 9 months has decided to call it quits last week. Everything was goin perfect, it was the perfect kind of love, a match made in heaven. It went from great to falling apart the next day. He said that the distance is killing him & he's having doubts about the future. He claims that he wanted more and it was getting harder for him. So he chose the easier way out than fighting for our love. How did this happen? Is there a chance he'll come back?
As I’m not sure of the specifics of your relationship, I couldn’t tell you why your relationship ended. I also cannot tell you whether or not he will come back. What I can tell you is that you can remain optimistic, or you could carry on with your life. He may come back, or may not. What you need to see is that if he has no issue leaving you that quickly, is he really that invested in your relationship? If he came back to you tonight, would you take him back?
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Hey so your blog is amazing and my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half already and in a couple of months he will be starting college 4 hours away. Our relationship is amazing and he makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. However every-time I think about I start sobbing because I know soon I won't be able to just call him to go to his house or go on a lunch date randomly. Do you ever just get used to them not being around anymore once they leave?
Unfortunately you do get accustomed to it after a while, it’s as if it’s a lifestyle.
I've been in a LDR for 6 months now and my gf shipped off to basics in January. She was allowed to make phone calls the other day so she called her parents and then me. Somehow it felt like she was only complaining about how hard it is for HER to not be able to communicate with me and how though her days are when I told her that I had surgery and that I have a severe shinbone injury+torn ligaments she barely reacted. I wanna support her in everything but it isn't easy for me either right now.
I understand what you’re going through, but you also have to see where’s she’s coming from. She’s away from family, friends, and you. It’s a toll on her too, and maybe she’s just taking everything in. Be patient.
Hey! I'm in this ldr with this amazing guy. We've been together for 6 months now. Sometimes he gets silent but that's list of my issue. My issue is that he wants us to have sex when he comes to visit in the summer and I'm not sure about it. I'm a virgin and I don't think I'm ready. Btw he's 23. I'm 18. He loves me, I want him to be my first. But, I believe sex is not just a game, some of us don't know the true meaning.I just feel unsure. I don't want him to leave me soon after we do it. xx
Here’s something you need to realize, your choices and values come before any relationship. If there is EVER any guy ( or significant other) who does not respect your decision then you need to leave them. That’s only a sign of what is to come.
I’m very big on being respected, especially when it comes to something like that.
So I'm new with this long distance relationship and I really need help. Me and my boyfriend usually talk everyday for about two to three hours but these past few weeks he seldom goes online and I'm getting disappointed about it but I'm trying to be a girlfriend who's pretty understanding. It just hurts because I feel like he doesn't care for me that much to inform me about his whereabouts. :(
You have to realize and acknowledge that he has a life outside of your relationship, and he may not be accustomed to telling someone where he is at every minute of the day. It takes time to get accustomed to doing that, so be patient with him. I’m sure he’s not doing it purposely to you.
So I've been in a LDR for 6 months. Me and my boyfriend skype and call each other all the time. The problem is that my parents will kill me if they find out I talk to people online because they're paranoid I'm going to get kidnapped or something. (1)
I think that although you may think that your parents will kill you it all depends on how you present it to them. It’s like any speech, or presentation. Sugar coat it, use the word hypothetical, and tell them as if it was a friend of yours. See how they react, like that you know how to go about telling them.
so I'm fairly new to LDR thing .. I'm having a hard time coming with the loneliness. I'm in the army stationed in GA about to PCS to CO and he's a part time firefighter and EMT while being in paramedic school back in CA. We hardly talk but a few times a day and when he says he'll call he never does.. I've tried discussing it but he just says he's sorry and that he's really busy and I understand I'm trying to be as supportive as possible I'm just kinda lost as where I take it from here
You both have to set boundaries, both that you will respect for each other. For example Trey and I will text each other throughout the day, and if we have plans at night ( to study, go out with friends, or just relax) we communicate with one another.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when he says he’ll call in 30 mins and doesn’t call at all. I understand he may get caught up in something, and I respect, and also acknowledge that he has a life aside from me. All I ask in return that he gives me a notice, or heads up if you will, that he won’t be able to call. We didn’t get it right the first couple of years, and he tends to be forgetful even now 7 years going on 8.
“I’ve stopped being sorry for all my soft. I won’t apologise because I miss you, or because I said it, or because I text you first, or again. I think everyone spends too much time trying to close themselves off. I don’t want to be cool or indifferent, I want to be honest. If I love you at 5AM, I’d damn well rather that you know I felt it. If I love you two hours later, I’ll tell you then too. Listen, I won’t wait double the time it takes for you to text me back because I don’t want to. I don’t care enough to be patient with you. I’m happy, you made me feel that way, don’t you want to know? So that’s how it’s going to be. I’m going to leave myself as open as a church door. And I’m going to wake you up before the crack of dawn to tell you that I’m fucking joyful, no pretending, not from me, not ever. Would you like some coffee, would you please kiss me? Here, these are my hands, this is my mouth, it is all yours.”—Azra T.
Ok, so I've been in a ldr for about 5 years now, and I've known this guy since I was born. We reconnected when he found me in Facebook and it's been great since then. Well I havnt seen him since I was 4 years old other then video chatting him everyday. He is finally coming to visit alone and I'm a little nervous for some reason. I feel like if we are alone for too long he might want to have sex, and I don't know if I am ready for that, because how personal it could be. I don't know what to do.
Communication is key.
The reason I say this is because you need to communicate these feelings to him, you need to tell him that you’re not ready.
Hi, I have been in a ldr for about a month now and I really like him, but I feel like I'm crying every night! Not because the relationship is bad because it's more than amazing but because I find myself getting tired of missing him and I just want to be with him so bad and I don't know how to just not think about these things
I tend to avoid those type of thoughts by thinking about our next time together, or about our previous times together. You control what you think, so think only positive thoughts! ☺️
Hi! Luv ze blog! I don't know what to do with this: I have known this guy for 2 years, and we met over the summer (he comes to the east coast over the summer) and I have always felt a connection from day one. Now it is only about a month ago, that he confessed his attraction for me (after a reconnection after little contact for 5 months). He didn't know the feelings were mutual. We talk everyday and skype. I need to know, what to do with this. Can LDRs really work? He lives 2000 miles away.
LDR’s can work if both of you put the effort into it. It can’t be a one sided relationship ( honestly I don’t think any relationship would work if it was one sided).