You both have to set boundaries, both that you will respect for each other. For example Trey and I will text each other throughout the day, and if we have plans at night ( to study, go out with friends, or just relax) we communicate with one another.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when he says he’ll call in 30 mins and doesn’t call at all. I understand he may get caught up in something, and I respect, and also acknowledge that he has a life aside from me. All I ask in return that he gives me a notice, or heads up if you will, that he won’t be able to call. We didn’t get it right the first couple of years, and he tends to be forgetful even now 7 years going on 8.
Be patient, and communicate with him.
Communication is key.
The reason I say this is because you need to communicate these feelings to him, you need to tell him that you’re not ready.
I tend to avoid those type of thoughts by thinking about our next time together, or about our previous times together. You control what you think, so think only positive thoughts! ☺️
LDR’s can work if both of you put the effort into it. It can’t be a one sided relationship ( honestly I don’t think any relationship would work if it was one sided).
For starters I wanted to thank each and every one of my followers who have either recently joined my blog, or have been here from the beginning. I love each and every one of you and hope that in some way, shape, or form this blog has helped you with your relationship.
For those who are new followers I thought I would give you a little background information on my own LDR.
When I was 14 I accompanied my father on a his business trip to NYC, and being the free spirited child that I have always been, I explored NYC on my own while my father was stuck in his office during the day. I admit I’m from a bustling city in the south, but we mostly depend on cars to go from point a to point b, so the city was a new experience for me. On my third day in the city I gave up on trying to find some store ( I forget the name) and went into a coffee shop to buy a latte. While in line I was looking at a map on my phone trying to get a sense of direction when a guy tapped me on my shoulder and asked me ” Are you lost?” with his sly smile. I blushed, believe me I know I did, and admitted to him that I was in fact lost. He said that the coffee was on him, and that he would take me wherever I wanted to go, and he has done that very thing for 7 years. We’re same age, and we didn’t really start our LDR until we had talked for about a year and a half.
I admit it wasn’t easy, but anything that is worth it isn’t. We’ve made it through ups and downs, and are still stronger than ever.
I know exactly how you feel. I tend to find new things to do when he’s busy. I don’t like to pester him, so I tend to not contact him the entire time I know he’s busy or is stressing for an exam. For example, recently he was studying day and night for his LSAT and I didn’t want to bother him so I started running outdoors again with my dogs. I’ve beat my own PR and have never felt better.
Hopefully this helps, love.
Well, what did you have in mind?
I think you should ask him directly, and find out the truth.
I’m assuming you’re asking about advice on trusting him, if not I’m a bit confused myself.
As for trusting him, you have to do that all on blind faith. You have to blindly trust him not to do any of the things that haunt you late at night, because in the end if he loves you he won’t.
When you’re in a long distance relationship you have to realize that the relationship is built on a foundation of trust, love, communication, and honesty. Without the essential four pillars who know how long any relationship would last, long distance or not. ( a full post will be coming shortly tonight in regards to my advice for LDR’s, and the questions I get asked the most)
Hopefully this helps, love.
I think that you should reconsider your relationship with your current boyfriend, and the only reason why I say that is because you ( with your own free will) decided to contact your ex-boyfriend. I understand he’s been distant but that’s one of the many downsides to LDR’s, you have to have patience. Granted you two have dated two months, but if you’re already looking back to your ex then maybe an LDR isn’t for you.
I believe that when you’re in a long distance relationship your trusting your partner and your partner is putting their trust in you to love them, to be faithful, and to be there for them.
I hope this helps with your decision,