Unfortunately you do get accustomed to it after a while, it’s as if it’s a lifestyle.
I understand what you’re going through, but you also have to see where’s she’s coming from. She’s away from family, friends, and you. It’s a toll on her too, and maybe she’s just taking everything in. Be patient.
Here’s something you need to realize, your choices and values come before any relationship. If there is EVER any guy ( or significant other) who does not respect your decision then you need to leave them. That’s only a sign of what is to come.
I’m very big on being respected, especially when it comes to something like that.
You have to realize and acknowledge that he has a life outside of your relationship, and he may not be accustomed to telling someone where he is at every minute of the day. It takes time to get accustomed to doing that, so be patient with him. I’m sure he’s not doing it purposely to you.
I think that although you may think that your parents will kill you it all depends on how you present it to them. It’s like any speech, or presentation. Sugar coat it, use the word hypothetical, and tell them as if it was a friend of yours. See how they react, like that you know how to go about telling them.
You both have to set boundaries, both that you will respect for each other. For example Trey and I will text each other throughout the day, and if we have plans at night ( to study, go out with friends, or just relax) we communicate with one another.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when he says he’ll call in 30 mins and doesn’t call at all. I understand he may get caught up in something, and I respect, and also acknowledge that he has a life aside from me. All I ask in return that he gives me a notice, or heads up if you will, that he won’t be able to call. We didn’t get it right the first couple of years, and he tends to be forgetful even now 7 years going on 8.
Be patient, and communicate with him.