Have you communicated how he makes you fell lately with him? I have said this time and time again communication is key!
Have you heard the saying ” It takes two to tango!”, well it applies to various aspects of our lives. For example, this one you both need to interact, to actively listen in order to have a lively conversation. Tell her to put her part, because like I’ve said endlessly Communication is KEY.
Hey! Thanks for replying my message! I’m the Filipino girl who lives in Canada lol. I hope being open to him won’t become an issue or fight. He’s been changing though since the last time I caught him cheating. He sends me pictures through Facebook of what he does everyday, and we constantly Skype. I just don’t know if it’s enough. Thanks so much! God bless!
Do you think he is sending these pictures out of guilt? Anyways, good luck love!
We met in Hawai’i on a camping trip. It was not love at first sight; he was everything I was not, and not usually the type I would go for. We were complete opposites, and came from two entirely different places and families. Over the three weeks we spent together along with 8 other individuals, we became friends after five days of awkward conversations. However, during those three weeks together, we became amazing friends, always joking around…constantly laughing and smiling together. We experienced the amazing wonders of Hawai’i, which only made our time together more memorable. During our last week, he acted more affectionately, but nothing beyond flirting. Each night, when we camped out on the beach, we would stay up late, without a care for the time, and talk under the stars. We talked about everything and anything. He shared with me so much about his life and himself, stuff he had never told anyone else. While he shared personal things about himself, I tried to share secrets about myself, but I wasn’t ready yet. Throughout our time together, he helped me to realize that I need to live for myself and forget the expectations that other people have for me. He helped me find myself, something people never find in their entire lives. He opened my eyes to what was most important in life and helped me to realize I need not to worry about petty things, because you only live once. On our very last night in Hawai’i before we would depart back home, we stayed away all night on the beach in a sleeping bag. He held me all night, and it was the happiest I had ever been in so so long. I forgot all about my severe anxiety that I deal with on a daily basis and everything else that stressed me out. Finally, he kissed me and it was amazing. I have never felt so much in one kiss. Something I will never forget. Unfortunately, we live on complete opposite sides of the U.S., hundreds of miles apart from each other. We have talked every day, and I’m falling for him so intensely. I’ve never felt this way about anyone, I’ve never loved anyone, but he is changing that for me. It’s been four months since I’ve been able to see him, and it’s so incredibly hard. I cry myself to sleep sometimes and he’s the only thing I think about all day. All I want to do is be with him, but it won’t be for several more months that I will get to be in his arms. I don’t know how to deal with all of this, and I know I’m so young, but I really am in love with him. He has taught me so much about life and happiness, and beyond the physical attraction there is something so much greater, and that’s how I know I love him. So, all I can do is wait, and maybe one day we will really be together.
Would love to hear your thoughts, please let me know!
Rachel, I think that although your feelings for him are strong you need to learn how to not depend on him so much for your happiness. Don’t get me wrong, fall for him, learn what it feels like to be in love, but understand that with a LDR there are struggles, and those struggles aren’t easily overcome. You need to realize that what you feel, people have felt for years. If you’re ready to feel this over and over again, then all I can recommend with helping you cope with these emotions is to keep yourself preoccupied, join clubs, start something you’ve wanted to do, get out there. You’ll make time for him when you both are free, but you need to live your life for yourself.
I ask myself how I do this everyday with Tre, and honestly we start with one conversation and just branch off to others!
Thank you so much! It means loads to me that another LDR feels the same way I do, and agrees with my advice!
Make a stand, make it clear that you have doubts in him and that you still think he will.
Communication is key.
You don’t reminisce, in fact you learn to pre-occupy yourself. Keeping yourself busy will tend to keep you from wandering thoughts. I personally wouldn’t recommend that you talk to someone about it, because once you do you’ll just get back in the blanket of sadness.
I hope this helps!